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I have mixed feelings about it. At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight.
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage. I couldn't imagine as the child got older that he/she wouldn't be teased by his fellow peers. Just look at what happened with the recent tragedies of teens coming out that they were gay. Even though they themselves may not be gay, they could be harrassed because their parents are.
On the other hand, who is to say a straight marriage is the best environment to raise a child either. We've all heard stories of abuse sexual, emotional and physical abuse towards kids.
I guess what I am saying is that I want every child to have a chance at a life that is free of pain, ridicule, abuse, etc. but that would be asking for the impossible.
Bingo! I believe in equal rights for all law-abiding citizens! What a damaging idea! Our country and society are going right into the diaper genie!
It's funny, macgeek, that 2 of the 3 things you listed about parenthood were gross diapers. That's one of the things that comes to mind first for me too!
I'm not married, and have no children, BUT I have had enough nieces and nephews to have experienced parents interacting with newborns who are pooping green Velcro that smells like New Jersey on a 102° day
and even with their eyes watering from the stench THEY STILL LOVE THE CHILD.
I have mixed feelings about it. At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight.
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage. I couldn't imagine as the child got older that he/she wouldn't be teased by his fellow peers. Just look at what happened with the recent tragedies of teens coming out that they were gay. Even though they themselves may not be gay, they could be harrassed because their parents are.
On the other hand, who is to say a straight marriage is the best environment to raise a child either. We've all heard stories of abuse sexual, emotional and physical abuse towards kids.
I guess what I am saying is that I want every child to have a chance at a life that is free of pain, ridicule, abuse, etc. but that would be asking for the impossible.
That's life though dear, life will always produce challenges no matter what you try to avoid.
I have mixed feelings about it. At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight.
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage. I couldn't imagine as the child got older that he/she wouldn't be teased by his fellow peers. Just look at what happened with the recent tragedies of teens coming out that they were gay. Even though they themselves may not be gay, they could be harrassed because their parents are.
On the other hand, who is to say a straight marriage is the best environment to raise a child either. We've all heard stories of abuse sexual, emotional and physical abuse towards kids.
I guess what I am saying is that I want every child to have a chance at a life that is free of pain, ridicule, abuse, etc. but that would be asking for the impossible.
I am, generally, for it. But seeniorita brought up something I hadn't thought about. The children may, indeed, be subjected to "hatred and challenges" that may come from a gay union. I wouldn't wish that on a child. However, that may be a relatively small price to pay for being brought up in a loving environment. There are way too many hetero couples who don't know the first thing about parenting and/or have children for all the wrong reasons.
I guess what I'm saying is there are a lot of grey areas in this issue.
The children may, indeed, be subjected to "hatred and challenges" that may come from a gay union.
The challenges probably aren't all that different that what the children of interracial or interfaith couples experienced a few generations ago. People have gotten past that, for the most part, as well.
my experience has been children brought up by same sex parents expect nothing less than children brought up by traditional couples...
to them seeing their 2 dads snuggling on the couch while wathicn a movie is not "weird" running in to the bedroom xmas morning to wake up their 2 mommies to them is no different than the child of a traditional couple doing the same thing.
most kids raised by same sex couples adore their parents just as much as those raised in traditional families,
they have been raised without the stigma surrounding gay couples
to them their 2 daddies is completly normal and nothing to be ashamed about.
i have a friend who was raised by a lesbian couple (the birth mother was married to a male at one point in her late teen years and had my frined before allowing herself to be truly happy in the relationship she truly wanted)
aparently during the younger years kids were curious, never offensive, kids arnt born to think of relationships in male/female simply in "mommy loves daddy" so kids would often ask why she didnt have a daddy...she would tell them that she didnt have a daddy because she had 2 mommies...
during middle school she aparently had a few more comments, but no more so than the kids of single parents...and then shed simply tell people that she had a wonderfull family that loved her very much...
in highscool kids were highschool kids, some thought it was cool, others didnt care and the rare few would make comments...but to her it didnt matter because she had a family that loved her very much.
in college noone cared.
these kids raised by same sex parents are also typically taught that other kids are raised by a mommy and a daddy, while yet other kids are raised by just a mommy...or just a daddy...
to them theres nothing strange about seeing families of all different kinds...
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage.
Well, who is to blame for said hatred and challenges? The only reason why any child of a gay couple would be tease is primarily due to the other children's own upbringing.
Homophobic parents are more likely to raise homophobic children.
Why deny gay couples the right to have children? Instead, straight couples should be banned for fear of raising homophobic children
Well, who is to blame for said hatred and challenges? The only reason why any child of a gay couple would be tease is primarily due to the other children's own upbringing.
Homophobic parents are more likely to raise homophobic children.
I absolutely agree with you but I didn't make the world so.
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Why deny gay couples the right to have children? Instead, straight couples should be banned for fear of raising homophobic children
Here's another part of my post you forgot to quote:
"At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight."
I am, generally, for it. But seeniorita brought up something I hadn't thought about. The children may, indeed, be subjected to "hatred and challenges" that may come from a gay union. I wouldn't wish that on a child. However, that may be a relatively small price to pay for being brought up in a loving environment. There are way too many hetero couples who don't know the first thing about parenting and/or have children for all the wrong reasons.
I guess what I'm saying is there are a lot of grey areas in this issue.
They said the same thing about interracial couples having kids 40 years ago as well. The fact is that kids will always be the subject of this stuff.
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