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It used to be that a woman was a spinster if she wasn't married at a certain age. Women's place was in the bedroom and kitchen. She rarely worked. It's different today. Women don't need to marry for a man to take care of them. They can take care of themselves now. Besides, so many marriages end up in divorce, what's the point.
The problem is that young male won't be forever. Pretty soon that young male will be an older man in his 40s and 50s, still doesn't have his life together, still has no wife and kids, probably overweight, and basically has nothing to live for. Advising young men not to marry and have children is one of the stupidest things you can do. Hollywood doesn't paint a realistic picture of what happens to the "players" in life if they get their cards right.
Lol @ trying to scare men into getting married...fear mongering ass.
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I agree. Most of my friends have been married more than 20 years.
Try doing a survey. Go to your bank, the auto dealer, the market....where ever and ask the people there if they are one time happily married and still going strong, and who is divorced. I bet the majority will answer divorced at least once.
Try doing a survey. Go to your bank, the auto dealer, the market....where ever and ask the people there if they are one time happily married and still going strong, and who is divorced. I bet the majority will answer divorced at least once.
Perhaps that is true in the general population, but I can tell you that in my social group, like Donna's, the vast majority of us married in our twenties and have been married for 25-35 years. It would be interesting to investigate what makes us different.
The problem is that young male won't be forever. Pretty soon that young male will be an older man in his 40s and 50s, still doesn't have his life together, still has no wife and kids, probably overweight, and basically has nothing to live for. Advising young men not to marry and have children is one of the stupidest things you can do. Hollywood doesn't paint a realistic picture of what happens to the "players" in life if they get their cards right.
What do you mean doesn't have anything to live for or doesn't have life together? This goes back to the saying "your life should be happy and complete upon yourself and anybody in your life should just enhance it".
I never married, no kids love life every day (almost every day). My thing is guitar, most of my free time is involved in that I love it it is a life learning process that will never end. Other people should have their own passion in life besides just a special other. Man or woman, too many are afraid to be alone. I get love, I know your special other may mean the world to you but it shouldn't be the only thing that makes you care about your life. I also understand heartbreak.
However when a man is in his 50's or 60's and his wife drops the bomb that she is divorcing he is still in the same boat in the end of being alone as the same aged man who never married. The man married for 20 or 30 yrs is going to have a much more difficult time facing reality.
But you know what there is still that thing called hope. We all need it....hope. You never know what is around the corner, one door closes but another one opens. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected but it does. The key is to be the tree trunk, and everybody else around you the branches. Leaves fall off, branches break off, but a solid tree will renew.
Perhaps that is true in the general population, but I can tell you that in my social group, like Donna's, the vast majority of us married in our twenties and have been married for 25-35 years. It would be interesting to investigate what makes us different.
Well I don't count I am a oddball of never being married. However my life has come in contact with a wide array of different peeps of different social, economic and ethnic classes and none seem immune to winding up in divorce.
The only possible people who may never divorce is based on their religion but one would hae to wonder how many of them are truely happy and not just keeping it together because it is expected for them to.
The unfortunate truth about marriage is only a small percent marry out of real true love, which is not easy to find or occur in this world. The rest marry out of need to have or meet certain financial or social expectations, to raise a family, or just because they don't want to be alone.
Well I don't count I am a oddball of never being married. However my life has come in contact with a wide array of different peeps of different social, economic and ethnic classes and none seem immune to winding up in divorce.
The only possible people who may never divorce is based on their religion but one would hae to wonder how many of them are truely happy and not just keeping it together because it is expected for them to.
The unfortunate truth about marriage is only a small percent marry out of real true love, which is not easy to find or occur in this world. The rest marry out of need to have or meet certain financial or social expectations, to raise a family, or just because they don't want to be alone.
I knew religion was going to come up. Here's the fascinating thing about my family and friends: none of us are particularly religious. Most of us are agnostic at best, although a few attend the local Methodist church, so I'm unconvinced that religion thwarts divorce. In fact, I seem to recall seeing a study awhile back that found higher divorce rates among conservative evangelicals than the religiously unaffiliated.
What do you mean doesn't have anything to live for or doesn't have life together? This goes back to the saying "your life should be happy and complete upon yourself and anybody in your life should just enhance it".
I never married, no kids love life every day (almost every day). My thing is guitar, most of my free time is involved in that I love it it is a life learning process that will never end. Other people should have their own passion in life besides just a special other. Man or woman, too many are afraid to be alone. I get love, I know your special other may mean the world to you but it shouldn't be the only thing that makes you care about your life. I also understand heartbreak.
However when a man is in his 50's or 60's and his wife drops the bomb that she is divorcing he is still in the same boat in the end of being alone as the same aged man who never married. The man married for 20 or 30 yrs is going to have a much more difficult time facing reality.
But you know what there is still that thing called hope. We all need it....hope. You never know what is around the corner, one door closes but another one opens. Maybe not in the way you wanted or expected but it does. The key is to be the tree trunk, and everybody else around you the branches. Leaves fall off, branches break off, but a solid tree will renew.
It's very common for married people, especially married males, to shame and ridicule single men. They type that tries to convince men to get married, in a marriage where the wife is always right.
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