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How are you supposed to explain this to the school or Doctor? My child doesn't have a gender or we are waiting for them to decide. I really dislike this non gender movement.
Bizarre. And I say this as someone who is pro-trans rights and pro-respecting everyone no matter whether their gender correlates with their biological sex.
I totally get not adhering to gender roles with children when it comes to dressing them and buying toys for them. My daughter often wore her older brother's hand-me-downs as a baby/toddler (though she also had plenty of dresses). Both kids played with dolls, dollhouses, trucks, play kitchens, art supplies, Transformers, and so on. And my son went through a phase when he was about three where he wanted to wear a hair "scrunchie" all the time. Fine, whatever. Don't dress your daughters in pink and buy your boys dollies... that stuff is all cultural anyway and it doesn't really matter.
But going out of your way to not let anyone know whether you have a son or a daughter? That's just weird and puts way too much emphasis on gender. I know the idea is not to put any emphasis on it, but like it or not, we are a two-gender society. I think it's safe enough to assume that your child's gender lines up with his or her biological sex. If it turns out it doesn't, they'll let you know and you can deal with it at that point. Why create/assume a problem/conflict when none exists, which is true something like 99% of the time?
I wouldn't say it's child abuse, though. I mean, it probably makes no difference in the long run and the kids are happy enough. I just think it puts a very odd emphasis on something that shouldn't really matter. Won't harm babies/toddlers in the least, but once they go to preschool, they're going to feel weird being in this undefined group of one (or two, in the case of the twins). I understand that some children do have the issue of not fitting in with their biological sex when they are very young, but why would anyone want to set up their kid for that feeling when chances are very very very very very small that it would be an issue otherwise?
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Very stupid. Stupid also that it’s a msm story as I doubt many are doing this. Just clickbait. I’m certain that people enjoy being outraged as it is an industry these days.
Bizarre. And I say this as someone who is pro-trans rights and pro-respecting everyone no matter whether their gender correlates with their biological sex.
I totally get not adhering to gender roles with children when it comes to dressing them and buying toys for them. My daughter often wore her older brother's hand-me-downs as a baby/toddler (though she also had plenty of dresses). Both kids played with dolls, dollhouses, trucks, play kitchens, art supplies, Transformers, and so on. And my son went through a phase when he was about three where he wanted to wear a hair "scrunchie" all the time. Fine, whatever. Don't dress your daughters in pink and buy your boys dollies... that stuff is all cultural anyway and it doesn't really matter.
But going out of your way to not let anyone know whether you have a son or a daughter? That's just weird and puts way too much emphasis on gender. I know the idea is not to put any emphasis on it, but like it or not, we are a two-gender society. I think it's safe enough to assume that your child's gender lines up with his or her biological sex. If it turns out it doesn't, they'll let you know and you can deal with it at that point. Why create/assume a problem/conflict when none exists, which is true something like 99% of the time?
I wouldn't say it's child abuse, though. I mean, it probably makes no difference in the long run and the kids are happy enough. I just think it puts a very odd emphasis on something that shouldn't really matter. Won't harm babies/toddlers in the least, but once they go to preschool, they're going to feel weird being in this undefined group of one (or two, in the case of the twins). I understand that some children do have the issue of not fitting in with their biological sex when they are very young, but why would anyone want to set up their kid for that feeling when chances are very very very very very small that it would be an issue otherwise?
I kind of agree. The fact that the parents in the article seemed so reluctant to explain to their children the meaning of the words "he" and "she" seemed very odd. Are they going to be that coy when the kids start asking where babies come from?
Let the kids wear what they want and play what they want, and if they express concerns about their gender identity, treat that with respect, but pretending male and female don't exist won't make them go away.
These parents should be arrested and waterboarded for child abuse. Anyone want to bet in 10-15 years we'll see a spike in suicides among young people. And the stupid parents will never blame themselves.
It shows the ignorance of parents who don’t know the difference between a child’s sex and cultural norms of clothing and toys. If your son likes to wear dresses and play with Barbie Dolls but he has a penis, he is still a boy.
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