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So help me out here. Is this study concerned with Moms not be paid to be moms?
What about dads? I dont recall ever getting a check for doing yard work, coaching soccer, teaching Karate, maintenance of the the home, the vehicles or pool. (The pool that I never wanted in the first place). I wasn't paid for building our home. I wasn't paid for doing the landscaping, changing the septic pump twice. Both times on freezing ass days in snow that was over knee deep. I never got paid for being a dad. I didnt need to because to me it wasn't a job, it was part of life. The thought that I should be compensated for it never occurred to me. It was all by choice.
You know what? I am wrong, I was compensated. I watched my baby girls grow up to become very beautiful women. Smart, strong and very capable. That is one helluva reward if you ask me. I watched a very troubled 7 and 1/2 yearly boy grow to become a good man, a better man than I ever was. Damn life was good.
I have stage 4 cancer and I dwell upon these things a lot these days. Why do people think anyone owes them compensation for doing their jobs as a parent? Your children growing up to be good people is your compensation.
You have control of your body, you chose to have a kid, you chose in almost all cases whom the dad is and to cry that you are not paid for "your work" well then don't sign up for the job.
If you have not raised your kids capable to do their own laundry, cook and clean by the end of junior high then that is your choice and I respect that. However, unless they are special needs, they could have learned those skills.
I cannot begin to tell you how hard my kids and I have laughed over the years when they got to college and people were *shocked* that at age 18 they drove themselves 200 miles there for orientation, maybe staying in a hotel the night before. OMG...get the fainting couch out lol.
Pick up a history book, go read about Annie Oakley etc. Stop limiting your kids because of your own fears and upbringing. My great uncle was killing Nazis at 18, my can do their own laundry and drive 200miles lol, but you make your choices and live with them and I'll make mine.
You don't get paid for doing your own chores. If you don't want to take care of kids, don't have them. If you don't want to be a stay at home wife, get a job.
So help me out here. Is this study concerned with Moms not be paid to be moms?
What about dads? I dont recall ever getting a check for doing yard work, coaching soccer, teaching Karate, maintenance of the the home, the vehicles or pool. (The pool that I never wanted in the first place). I wasn't paid for building our home. I wasn't paid for doing the landscaping, changing the septic pump twice. Both times on freezing ass days in snow that was over knee deep. I never got paid for being a dad. I didnt need to because to me it wasn't a job, it was part of life. The thought that I should be compensated for it never occurred to me. It was all by choice.
You know what? I am wrong, I was compensated. I watched my baby girls grow up to become very beautiful women. Smart, strong and very capable. That is one helluva reward if you ask me. I watched a very troubled 7 and 1/2 yearly boy grow to become a good man, a better man than I ever was. Damn life was good.
I have stage 4 cancer and I dwell upon these things a lot these days. Why do people think anyone owes them compensation for doing their jobs as a parent? Your children growing up to be good people is your compensation.
It sounds like your kids are very lucky to have you.
So help me out here. Is this study concerned with Moms not be paid to be moms?
What about dads? I dont recall ever getting a check for doing yard work, coaching soccer, teaching Karate, maintenance of the the home, the vehicles or pool. (The pool that I never wanted in the first place). I wasn't paid for building our home. I wasn't paid for doing the landscaping, changing the septic pump twice. Both times on freezing ass days in snow that was over knee deep. I never got paid for being a dad. I didnt need to because to me it wasn't a job, it was part of life. The thought that I should be compensated for it never occurred to me. It was all by choice.
You know what? I am wrong, I was compensated. I watched my baby girls grow up to become very beautiful women. Smart, strong and very capable. That is one helluva reward if you ask me. I watched a very troubled 7 and 1/2 yearly boy grow to become a good man, a better man than I ever was. Damn life was good.
I have stage 4 cancer and I dwell upon these things a lot these days. Why do people think anyone owes them compensation for doing their jobs as a parent? Your children growing up to be good people is your compensation.
I wrote a personal message and got "you cannot rep again so soon". Ugh.
Short version: You see the big picture. None of us get out of life alive and well, you do your thing. Much respect. Peace.
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I work full time and am the primary care giver to 2 children. My spouse makes more than I do, has a worse commute, gets home later, has to finish up work at home, always "on the clock"...all that takes time and has a value. We designed it that my job is lower stress, flexible, and close to the schools so that we both wouldn't be running around crazy. I was a sahm for a few years too. Being a sahm does not compare in any way to working full time, dealing with actual work situations, commuting, etc and therefore I didn't expect any "help" on my end because being in casual clothes all day doing whatever I wanted with my kids was the greatest joy ever. The only downside to being a sahm is lack of adult interactions and loneliness but work, it is not. A lot of young mom's out there are quite insane and make being a mom hard work. They need to chill the heck out.
I'll be the stay at home father. She can be the breadwinner. These articles are rediculous.
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