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I was raised by a single mother and my grandparents. I never really knew my dad other than he broke my wrist when I was four (accident) and my grandfather threatened to kill him. Pops left soon after.
But my mom worked 2-3 jobs at times to support us and we never went on welfare. She's badass and I'm nothing but overwhelmingly proud of her for what she's achieved. She was never blamed for anything so I really don't get this.
But then, I know there are many women out there that aren't half the woman/parent my mother is. So I'm biased sue me.
Oh and yeah I was born out of wedlock and yes I was almost aborted too. Luckily I had a good, strong Catholic family that supported my mother and I made it through unscathed. Now, I've been a constant source of contention from then on but luckily I got jokes so I'm usually forgiven.
Let me get this straight.. if 70% of black children are born out of wedlock the mom gets called hoodrat and what not but not a single word for the dads.
Because, quite honestly, a lot of people don't take Black men seriously. There is a high rate of unemployment, crime, lazyiness, etc and it is almost as if we turn a blind eye to it as "expected."
The woman has just as much say in if he wraps it or not.
Equal decision at first
Unequal later.
I suppose you're against abortion then? Otherwise, you're being hypocritical.
It's not unequal later.. do u get it . If it's wrapped up 99% of the time there is no later!!
I am against abortions for myself!!! I believe people have the right to do what they want to do for their own religious or personal reasons. However, they should communicate before having sex, what if pregnancy what should they do and if they don't agree they either need to wrap it up or not have sex at all. But most of the time guys don't want to get that deep in a convo. because that may change the women mind about having sex. It's I love I love until they get pregnant and then it changes to I don't want to have a kid, I don't even love you!!
Buthe queation remains:what makes people think single moms can't do a good job raising children? Also,what makes people think just because someone is married that the will make a better parent? As I said,a child could be raised by two married bums,or a responsible single mom. Which child would have a better outcome?
I know children being raised by married drug addicts and a single mom making 6 figures and actively involved with her children. I have a feeling that if I put that as a poll question most would put the drug addicts would be better parents simply because they are married.
If I did have sons(I'm so lucky not to have any)how is them watching a bum of a man do nothing vs not seeing him there?what would be the difference?
That's not your decision on how your child will feel watching a bum or not seeing!!! the problem is adults always put their personal feeling on the kid and not really pay any attention to how the child feels at all!! That's one of the reason why children are so alone on the inside; surrounded by family.
The difference is a child wants to feel LOVED that's it!!! The job thing, money, etc. That is important to the mate, but not the child and until people really see that our single parents are going to always have a struggle with their children.
And to respond to the two parents, yes no one's perfect. But everyone knows darn well that it is not EASY being a single parent, no one really wanted to sign up for it, and the kids are unhappy ( different measures of unhappyness). I am a single mom and I hate when people try to act like it's easy and we can do without a man (father). Yes, women can do without a man(for themselves), but it's not our decision to say our kids can do without their father. (unless they are abusive towards them).
That's not your decision on how your child will feel watching a bum or not seeing!!! the problem is adults always put their personal feeling on the kid and not really pay any attention to how the child feels at all!! That's one of the reason why children are so alone on the inside; surrounded by family.
The difference is a child wants to feel LOVED that's it!!! The job thing, money, etc. That is important to the mate, but not the child and until people really see that our single parents are going to always have a struggle with their children.
And to respond to the two parents, yes no one's perfect. But everyone knows darn well that it is not EASY being a single parent, no one really wanted to sign up for it, and the kids are unhappy ( different measures of unhappyness). I am a single mom and I hate when people try to act like it's easy and we can do without a man (father). Yes, women can do without a man(for themselves), but it's not our decision to say our kids can do without their father. (unless they are abusive towards them).
Good post
My father died when I was 9 and my mother never remarried. So, in that sense, my mother was a single parent for half my childhood. I certainly missed not having my father around especially when the other kids fathers would turn up to sports events, etc.
There seems to be a form of feminism that has become very anti-male but with the woman as a victim of those nasty men. The feminism I grew up with and saw in my own mother was that women could take responsibility for themselves. It wasn't anti-male but rather both sexes in a partnership of equals.
That's not your decision on how your child will feel watching a bum or not seeing!!! the problem is adults always put their personal feeling on the kid and not really pay any attention to how the child feels at all!! That's one of the reason why children are so alone on the inside; surrounded by family.
The difference is a child wants to feel LOVED that's it!!! The job thing, money, etc. That is important to the mate, but not the child and until people really see that our single parents are going to always have a struggle with their children.
And to respond to the two parents, yes no one's perfect. But everyone knows darn well that it is not EASY being a single parent, no one really wanted to sign up for it, and the kids are unhappy ( different measures of unhappyness). I am a single mom and I hate when people try to act like it's easy and we can do without a man (father). Yes, women can do without a man(for themselves), but it's not our decision to say our kids can do without their father. (unless they are abusive towards them).
Actually,celebs and older professional women do it all the time. Let's take Sandra Bullock. She adopted a child without her pig husband. She split from her hubby. Now,what good would it have done her to stay with him? That child would have grew up watching mom cry her eyes out while daddy runs around with other women. I think its best she went at it alone. Children do know when someone is pretending to love each other. You can't fool them all the time. I know I felt relief for my mom when she left my cheating dad. I was happy knowing she was happy.
I will teach my two daughters aside from dating women,use men first before they use you.
Your posts have mutated from immature and unthoughtful to plain ignorant and simple minded. This is not an attack simply the truth, you give decent women a bad name.
You advocate that your daughters use men, practice lesbianism, you attempt to make people believe that a stable home with two sane responsible parents mean nothing, it's okay for your daughters to engage in unsafe sex.
You sound like the woman in another post, that's living in a hotel room with a bunch of baby kids and never had a husband talking about how somebody owes her!!!
Please have no further kids, do society a favor, we can't continue the support of people with no idea of morality and normalcy.
Last edited by reconmark; 05-02-2010 at 04:44 PM..
Reason: Had to edit names so I wouldn't be called an attacker
It's not unequal later.. do u get it . If it's wrapped up 99% of the time there is no later!!
I am against abortions for myself!!! I believe people have the right to do what they want to do for their own religious or personal reasons. However, they should communicate before having sex, what if pregnancy what should they do and if they don't agree they either need to wrap it up or not have sex at all. But most of the time guys don't want to get that deep in a convo. because that may change the women mind about having sex. It's I love I love until they get pregnant and then it changes to I don't want to have a kid, I don't even love you!!
Women have just as much control over it being wrapped as the man does.
Unless its rape.
What don't you get about that?
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. If it's wrapped up 99% of the time there is no later!! 
.... stop putting your problems on your daughter!!! 
