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* C-section pouch/overhang
* Loss of feeling around C-section scar
* Abs feel different - I don't feel like I can contract them the same way as they did before the birth, like there's an empty space in the middle.
My feet swelled towards the end of my pregnancy, but I'm back to the same shoe size as before.
my stretch marks never went away, my back used to hurt a lot but it seemed okay after a 1 year, my body was completely out of shape, and thank god now i look normal, though i didn't came back to my normal weight. my energy levels went down, and my shoe size increased by 1/2
Hubby and I trying to decide on family planning and reality of pregnancy.
I wish I was one of those people who said that my sex life was better for having children but the reality is that its not and raising kids is hard. I work full time in a physically and emotionally demanding job, plus my two boys are constantly attached to me not their dad. At the end of the day I just want to be alone and not touched period. Plus despite kegels I still don't feel the same 'down there' as I did before I started having kids.
I wish I was one of those people who said that my sex life was better for having children but the reality is that its not and raising kids is hard. I work full time in a physically and emotionally demanding job, plus my two boys are constantly attached to me not their dad. At the end of the day I just want to be alone and not touched period. Plus despite kegels I still don't feel the same 'down there' as I did before I started having kids.
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Sorry to hear that :-/ thank you for sharing your experience.
Did you notice any changes to your sex life, positive or negative?
Yes, it's a zombie thread and my "baby" is 35 but some things don't change! After he was born, I saw a headline on the cover of one of the Parenting magazines: "Sex or Sleep? Which do You Choose? Be Honest". I laughed out loud. I had a new baby, a demanding FT job and a husband who did very little. Yeah, I chose sleep.
BUT- pregnancy increases the blood supply "down there" and yes, that difference persisted. The feelings became more intense. Still true even after menopause. I didn't have a lot of other lasting effects- a few small stretch marks, breasts maybe a little softer but no permanent change in size. I weigh less now than I did in HS and just came in from a 15-mile bike ride. I'm sure that subsequent pregnancies and births have additional effects but I had only DS.
I've had 11 kids, including two sets of twins. Have had four c-sections. I put on a minimum of 70 lbs with each pregnancy & lost it all within a few months after. Always returned to an hourglass figure. Breastfed each & every time.
I got more compliments from men (if that matters to you; for me it does) on 'beauty' while pregnant than not.
My breasts sustained the most tissue damage; went from a 36 C to a B. I had stretch marks that faded but did leave skin tissue softer. Options for all of that later on, if it bothers you.
I was self employed in the sex industry for 5 years in between giving birth to my eighth & my second set of twins & was complimented frequently on having a 'real woman's body'.
After having my 11th at age 38 I made the worst mistake of my life & had a tubal ligation. Even though I got skinny again initially it was an ugly skinny. Like a rectangle. No curves. I started getting really unhealthy; broke out in cysts & boils, hair started falling out, super heavy, clotting periods & then ... The weight gain started. Oh my GOD 10 years of chronic fatigue and pain. Don't ever let anyone tell you post tubal ligation syndrome is imaginary.
I had my tubal reversed 6 years ago but a lot of damage had been done. Required 3 female surgeries (not a hysterectomy) & 9 units of blood transfusions to start getting back to normal. The only mistake since then was going on birth control for bleeding; gained a lot of weight but honestly, I prefer my big, hourglass body now to that skinny boxy figure I had after the tubal. I'm off the BC & loosing weight. I'd rather be pregnant in my 50's than be how I was in my 40's.
Basically, healthy is beautiful. All women are beautiful; I see women decades older than me (I am 52) that I am envious of. Fertility is sexy, pregnancy is sexy & mothers are sexy. Nothing will happen to your body that can't be fixed later on if it bothers you.
Oh yeah I guess my feet are a shoe size or two bigger now but I'm tall & my feet were always big anyway.
I am just over 7 months pregnant with twins.... I am kinda sorry that I clicked on this thread.
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