There's got to be another way.
I'm 25, happily married and monogamous for 4 years, and yet we still use condoms, and I feel like a bad wife for it.
Here's the deal:
I've mapped out our financial and career trajectory (of which we're well on-track), and we've projected that we'll be completely ready for a child in 2 years (from now), in accordance to the conditions we've set that we need to meet or exceed before we're fit to reproduce.
That time is not now.
I've gone through the gamut of options:
Hormonal methods = extreme side-effects, to the point of contemplating suicide. Even with the extremely low-dose/non-systemic kinds, and many different ratios of progesterone to estrogen. They're all out.
Anything requiring spermicide = ouch. Any further details on that would be TMI.
IUD = my uterus is too small for even the Skyla, which is hormonal anyway..
Pull-out method = not effective
Fertility awareness = I've been charting this, even using a Lady Comp device (still using condoms, this is just to gather preliminary data right now), but I seem to be too irregular...it seems like I might ovulate more than once per cycle. So I'm opting against chancing it.
Abstinence = how many married couples indefinitely abstain from sex? Mentioning this because I know someone will bring this up.
That leaves condoms. We both hate them, but I am not ready to drop everything in life and have a baby right this minute. There are things we want to do in life first and ducks to get in a row.
I feel like we're the only the only married couple in the world who still uses condoms. Are there any other possible options?