My wife is very scared about pregnancy (normal, babies, range)

[Remar123456]

My wife is very scared about pregnancy. She doesn't want the pain, doesn't, doesn't want to ruin the figure and she will not be able to quit smoking. She has proposed surrogacy. Do you think it is a good idea?

[oregonwoodsmoke]

That might work if you have lots and lots of money to pay for it all.

[Remar123456]

I have no problem with money.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by oregonwoodsmoke

That might work if you have lots and lots of money to pay for it all.

Are you sure? We are talking about LOTS and LOTS of money---like famous movie star type or "old money" kind of money. Now, if your wife is a world famous supermodel, perhaps "not wanting to lose her figure" might be a legitimate reason, otherwise, "Nope".

[Electrician4you]

Originally Posted by Remar123456

My wife is very scared about pregnancy. She doesn't want the pain, doesn't, doesn't want to ruin the figure and she will not be able to quit smoking. She has proposed surrogacy. Do you think it is a good idea?

Tell her to quit smoking even if she doesn’t have a child. I know plenty of moms who had two or three kids and they have great bodies.
Her body is gonna go through changes regardless. Eventually her assets may start pointing south a bit more. Even if she doesn’t have children.

[ellie]

What’s she gonna do about changing diapers, then? Tell her no babies. You get a better wife.

[reneeh63]

It doesn't really matter - if she's convinced herself that she can't do what it takes then I doubt anyone else will be able to....but surrogates are expensive - do your research. And yes, look into nannies from Day 1 - she's not gonna like taking care of them either, I have a feeling.

[elnina]

Originally Posted by ellie

What’s she gonna do about changing diapers, then? Tell her no babies. You get a better wife.

Money is no problem. They can get 24/7 nannies.

BUT:
It doesn't matter what random internet strangers think.
This is a decision to make between them.

BTW:
What else she doesn't want to do? What about working, cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery, shopping etc.?

[brightdoglover]

Maybe they or she don't want to be parents? It's a real option, not become a parent/have a child. I know.

[gentlearts]

A little fear is normal. The other things are weird. I would not have children with someone who will not even give up smoking for her own well-being.