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Old 10-17-2010, 04:02 PM
 
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Did she tell you she is overweight??
I'm hardly overweight so I'm not offended. I've thought about working at the local humane society but it's sort of far away like 40 minutes
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:08 PM
 
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I didn't mean to offend. It was just a throwaway example of how change can improve mental state.

I think visiting a counsellor may help, as well as some basic social contacts. Why not join a group/club? What are your interests?
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:13 PM
 
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I didn't mean to offend. It was just a throwaway example of how change can improve mental state.

I think visiting a counsellor may help, as well as some basic social contacts. Why not join a group/club? What are your interests?
Animals, Drinking/local bar, Poker/Cards, Bonfires, Camping during the summer months, Scrapbooking, Photography
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Animals, Drinking/local bar, Poker/Cards, Bonfires, Camping during the summer months, Scrapbooking, Photography
Word to the wise...drinking should never be a hobby.

Alcohol is not your friend.

And given that you almost lost your life apparently recently because of it, I would think you would get that

You don't seem open to learning the lesson I spoke about
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Animals are good for your soul!! IMO.
Photography is a great hobbie!
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:40 PM
 
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Animals, Drinking/local bar, Poker/Cards, Bonfires, Camping during the summer months, Scrapbooking, Photography
Join a photography club, or join an animal charity.
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Old 10-17-2010, 04:45 PM
 
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I was in a similar position when I was younger. The best I can suggest for you is do everything you can to get a good job and make enough money you can get away from your parents and get out of the boondocks. You sound very depressed and I would think a large deal of that comes from your current living situation. Nothing says it has to stay that way though. Are you in college or some kind of training for a better career?

Even if it is 40 mins to drive to animal shelter maybe it would be worth the effort to go there to volunteer. It sounds like what you need is to meet other people and to feel like you have some purpose in life or something to do or look forward to. If its not that then find some other volunteer work or join some kind of hobby group or exercise class so you can be around others your own age and with similar interests. If nothing else it will get you away from your parents which I'm assuming may help a lot. I lived with my father after college because I couldn't find a job in my field and that was the most depressing time of my life.

As for the hearing problem I have faced the same thing. I am hearing impaired and find it difficult to carry on conversations even with hearing aids because I also have something called central auditory processing disorder so it makes it hard for me to keep up with spoken conversation. Do you have hearing aids?
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Old 10-17-2010, 05:33 PM
 
Location: NYC
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If you got "super drunk" and did something which could have cost you your life, it is understandable that some people don't want you around. I certainly wouldn't. I agree with the previous poster, drinking should not be a hobby. Make it one, and expect a lifetime of people shunning you. I think you'd do well to lay off of it for a while, give yourself a chance to develop better relationships without it.
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Old 10-18-2010, 06:51 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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You really need to look into counseling / therapy. Sounds like you have a lot of deep-seeded issues that you need to get off your chest and it doesn't sound like you have a good support network to do this. Once you work out some of your deeper issues, and then work on your confidence, you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. While you are working on *you*, I'd avoid any drama, negative people or naysayers... they will only drag you down and / or keep you from progressing in therapy.

Good luck.
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Old 10-18-2010, 07:12 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Havn't read much in this thread. But just on the title.....someone who calls you weird and pyscho is not your friend.......
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