This happens all the time: people who see you but don't move. (woman, thoughts)
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I mean, it seems totally passive-aggressive to me. I can be riding my bike on the sidewalk (because the street is a major one where bikes usually do not go) and there may be one or several people turn around, see me, and don't budge.
Or on foot, I walked into a store yesterday and a woman was blocking the entrance, saw me, stayed put, and so I was forced to say 'excuse me' and then these people seem to peevishly move. It irks me that I have to take the trouble to ask them to do something they are aware of. I realize that sometimes you can look at something and not really be there because you are preoccupied but this is happening too often.
What say me?
My lower ego self says what you say, I could get peeved.
My higher self says, these people were never listened to, cared about,
mattered or were invisible as children and unconsciously they'll be dam*ed
if they're going to be invisible again.
They are staking there ground...like marking their territory...they might as well
stand there like Mr. Clean arms crossed...that's what they look like to me....children with
their arms crossed.
Yes, it is passive aggressive, directed out at the world...the world is now to take the
blame for the neglect of their parents.
Thus, the bank teller that doesn't smile at them becomes the replacement mother (now should be fired),
The stranger that wants to pass by is now the father and darnit, notice them.
I don't think the blocking-the-doorway thing, or a group of young people blocking a sidewalk while walking and chatting, is passive-aggressive most of the time. It's just simple self-absorption and cluelessness. But it does seem very odd. What part of "doorway" or "public thoroughfare" don't they get?
I don't think the blocking-the-doorway thing, or a group of young people blocking a sidewalk while walking and chatting, is passive-aggressive most of the time. It's just simple self-absorption and cluelessness. But it does seem very odd. What part of "doorway" or "public thoroughfare" don't they get?
Hate to stereotype but I see this blocking behavior more in overweight single moms in my area than young people.. agree with you on self-absorption and cluelessness..
What say me?
My lower ego self says what you say, I could get peeved.
My higher self says, these people were never listened to, cared about,
mattered or were invisible as children and unconsciously they'll be dam*ed
if they're going to be invisible again.
They are staking there ground...like marking their territory...they might as well
stand there like Mr. Clean arms crossed...that's what they look like to me....children with
their arms crossed.
Yes, it is passive aggressive, directed out at the world...the world is now to take the
blame for the neglect of their parents.
Thus, the bank teller that doesn't smile at them becomes the replacement mother (now should be fired),
The stranger that wants to pass by is now the father and darnit, notice them.
I have felt that way about others before. For instance, I have seen young males "play-fighting" in traffic! And I have felt that the most neglected, most invisible tend to do reckless, look-at-me antics that seem demented on the outside looking in.
I don't think the blocking-the-doorway thing, or a group of young people blocking a sidewalk while walking and chatting, is passive-aggressive most of the time. It's just simple self-absorption and cluelessness. But it does seem very odd. What part of "doorway" or "public thoroughfare" don't they get?
I think it is precisely when they look directly at you and proceed to do the same thing. I know that even I have stood somewhere in a store aisle thinking about what I need or whatever and hear a slightly irked voice behind me say "excuse me!"
I don't think the blocking-the-doorway thing, or a group of young people blocking a sidewalk while walking and chatting, is passive-aggressive most of the time. It's just simple self-absorption and cluelessness. But it does seem very odd. What part of "doorway" or "public thoroughfare" don't they get?
Yep. It's back-to-school time at the local universities, and every year there's a new influx of students who randomly stop in a stairwell or on the sidewalk to text, who meander along with headphones in staring at their phones with people behind them, who block doorways, and who walk down the sidewalk four abreast expecting others to walk in the grass to get by them. It eventually dies down, but it's super annoying.
I mean, it seems totally passive-aggressive to me. I can be riding my bike on the sidewalk (because the street is a major one where bikes usually do not go) and there may be one or several people turn around, see me, and don't budge.
Or on foot, I walked into a store yesterday and a woman was blocking the entrance, saw me, stayed put, and so I was forced to say 'excuse me' and then these people seem to peevishly move. It irks me that I have to take the trouble to ask them to do something they are aware of. I realize that sometimes you can look at something and not really be there because you are preoccupied but this is happening too often.
What say you?
Totally agree, i see this all the time, i feel like i'm the one who's always having to "sidestep" someone...if i see the person is pre-occupied i'll sidestep, but most times, they'll just keep walking like they own the sidewalk.
I usually don't move when there is a bicycle on the sideWALK (only if it is children). Bikes don't belong there.
As for the doorways, I noticed the same. I think it might be that people look into your direction but are somewhere else with their thoughts and just don't register you.
I often have people (mostly teenagers) run into me but I don't move away if it is because of their own stupidity. I move away if I see they are preoccupied with thoughts or if we are both coincidentally walk into each other. If I walk straight and they see me coming and come from the side or turn around and walk into me - their mistake. And I especially don't move for people who text and don't look where they are walking.
They look up the last second before they hit me and think I need to avoid collision, because they are so important - NOPE. I usually win since I am taller and they just bounce off me.
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I mean, it seems totally passive-aggressive to me. I can be riding my bike on the sidewalk (because the street is a major one where bikes usually do not go) and there may be one or several people turn around, see me, and don't budge.
Wow...great analysis!
And I have felt that the most neglected, most invisible tend to do reckless, look-at-me antics that seem demented on the outside looking in.
