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It's my answer to the question posted. My greatest regret about an old person passing is if they were not saved. You can feel free to answer the question from your own concerns, but please allow me the same courtesy.
I've always found it strange how people in their 80s still want to fight cancer. Are they that scared to die? If I was that age, I don't think I would go through all the treatments. I would know that my time has come and be happy that I made it that far.
My late uncle was a good age when he developed liver cancer. Chemo kept him going for five years after which his treatment was stopped and he duly died. The chemo would have kept him going for a long time but it was not allowed after the five years were up. He had a good cause to fight his cancer. Fighting it gave him life and a pretty good life at that (well, quite acceptable anyway).
My later uncle was a good age when he developed liver cancer. Chemo kept him going for five years after which his treatment was stopped and he duly died. The chemo would have kept him going for a long time but it was not allowed after the five years were up. He had a good cause to fight his cancer. Fighting it gave him life and a pretty good life at that (well, quite acceptable anyway).
It is sad that some have the power of life or death over us, based on financial considerations. I am sorry.
Was her death a tragedy? Not for me. It was sad, and I was distressed. But the real tragedy came later in the way our family disintegrated without her holding the center. Her death, in and of itself, does not strike me as particularly tragic. It was just life, in a way.
Sounds like my inlaws. After the funeral one of the brothers will not communicate with the rest of the family. No one even knows why.
I guess I should expand on my earlier post. My mother was a true Christian and wonderful person but in later life her mind just drifted away. For the last ten years of her life she didn't recognise any of us. When she died at 94, I had grieved at her loss for many years already, and it was a relief that her suffering was finally over and that she was at peace. My Dad wouldn't even enter a church and would run a preacher off the property if one came by. He was a good, decent, honest man, and I loved and respected him greatly. I always meant to speak with him about spiritual matters, but I put it off too long and he died suddenly of a heart attack. I will regret to the end of my days that I never talked with him about salvation.
It is the normal cycle of life that does not mean you dont feel sad. The answer is spend quality time with your loved ones. Tell them you love them . The worst thing when losing someone is the guilt you feel because it is too late to do these things.
I guess I should expand on my earlier post. My mother was a true Christian and wonderful person but in later life her mind just drifted away. For the last ten years of her life she didn't recognise any of us. When she died at 94, I had grieved at her loss for many years already, and it was a relief that her suffering was finally over and that she was at peace. My Dad wouldn't even enter a church and would run a preacher off the property if one came by. He was a good, decent, honest man, and I loved and respected him greatly. I always meant to speak with him about spiritual matters, but I put it off too long and he died suddenly of a heart attack. I will regret to the end of my days that I never talked with him about salvation.
It's my answer to the question posted. My greatest regret about an old person passing is if they were not saved. You can feel free to answer the question from your own concerns, but please allow me the same courtesy.
Whoa! What are all these litmus tests? Grief is about the most personal thing there is, meaning that the patterns, intensity, and duration vary enormously from individual to individual. Admittedly the co-worker did not exhibit a lot of sensitivity. But why would we assume that because we had such a hard time, everybody has an equally hard time?
I did not experience very intense grief at all when my mother died nine years ago at age 90 or when my father died thirteen years ago at age 85. I did feel, and even now sometimes feel, some sadness (grief), but it just wasn't that big a deal. Part of that was probably that they were both in failing health and wishing them continued life would have amounted to cruelty. It was time; for better or for worse they had lived their lives and their time had come. May I be so lucky as to die before becoming bed-ridden and before losing my marbles.
We are simply not all the same.
Here's my litmus test - don't draw a happy face on a sympathy card. IF you do ~ then I'm going to think you don't have a freaking clue about anything, including any manners.
my mother was 93 when she died over 2 years ago
tragic? no but she is my mother and I grieved I still miss her
I hope you one day move past your head and find a heart then you might get it~~
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No one even knows why.
