Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Its scientific biology that men have 10-100 times more testosterone (aggressive hormone that drives sex) than women. It's simple biology at a elementary level.
I see absolutely no evidence of bitterness or defensiveness in this thread. What I do see, however, is an OP who posted broad generalizations about men and women with very little evidence to support his statements and now he's getting defensive because people are refuting his argument.
Well, "refute" I don't think is the intent so much as "expand on". What type of evidence should be put on the table here? Lime you said, nobody is getting defensive or all burr under the cinch about the OP. Mostly, folks are taking the general statements, and filling in the blanks. To be fair, that's really the only way to expand on the basic statements. There's a LOT of variables involved in this.
The true core of this is in the vast differences in how men and women look at/ think about sex. That also varies wildly because of factors like age and actual experience with the opposite sex. Can't post any link to any study that's going to matter a hoot in a high wind. One of the things that is causing issues here is in the thread title, and I don't think it was intentional. "men VS women. That puts the subject matter straight into a confrontational context, and some have been quick to take the discussion down that path. But, sexual relations should never be viewed or discussed in that context. Tbags where we end up opening the door to the whiny "men/women just hate me because I'm not this or that and I'm such a nice person but nobody wants a nice person and I'm not getting laid and if men/women would just fine me a chance and people are so shallow and I'm so deep and blah blah blah into a forever run on sentence.
The truth of it is, if more men and women would just slow down and do a bit of real interacting, with real people, put their brains to use and quit focusing on the "me" aspect, things might go better for them and everyone else. The way many, of both genders, seem to be looking at sex, is in that ever pervasive instant gratification thing. Whether male or female, you can get that with your hand. If all someone wants is to get off, they are better off using that hand. Sex is complicated. And what a beautiful complication it is. It takes time and patience to learn about, for men and women, but more and more people don't want to put in that kind of effort.
So, they blame their lack of having sex as a part of their life all on the opposite gender for being the same way. (Sigh) Personally, for my part, I am glad I'm not in the dating pool. I have a person in my life who sees things like I do. We actually talk to each other and are curious and concerned with each others feelings. We grow and evolve more with each other, every day. Sexually and otherwise. Since sex is the topic here, in that regard , we actually take a genuine interest in how sex works for each other. Its quite nice to actually know what orgasm is like for the opposite gender. What does it feel like? Having my girl actually describe and elaborate on the physical feeling of it for her, how it effects her mentally as well. I want to know.
I figure, if I have some modicum of understanding about how it feels to be her, I an be a better partner and lover for her. So, all that said, if someone is not willing to put in the work to have GOOD sex, go buy a tube of KY and a stack of porn, or a vibtator and have fun with yourself. Better that than a string of disappointed partners adding to the bitterness pool.
Women cannot even fathom the sexual desire that the average male has. Male soldiers at Walter Reed who've been blown to bits are most depressed about the fact that their male organs don't work anymore. For males, the desire to "get off" is like having a perpetual itch to scratch. Most men masturbate daily. If they don't, their dick will be so sensitive that they'll be having erections throughout the day.
Women cannot even fathom the sexual desire that the average male has. Male soldiers at Walter Reed who've been blown to bits are most depressed about the fact that their male organs don't work anymore. For males, the desire to "get off" is like having a perpetual itch to scratch. Most men masturbate daily. If they don't, their dick will be so sensitive that they'll be having erections throughout the day.
If they masturbate daily, why do they say sex 2-3 times/week with their SO/wife is enough sex?
Careful, now, partner. You keep bringing that common sense and critical thinking nonsense into these discussions and you're going to cause some forum members to blow a few gaskets. We just don't do critical thought around here. We're more into drama and ill conceived assumptions.
I'm sorry, but you need to get out more if you think that women aren't able to be addicted to sex and to want it all the time. Some women I've been with were insatiable. You are right that they will have sex "at a place of their own time and choosing", they will hunt you down and jump you. Gotta watch your back.
The difference with women I'd say is that they tend to do that in relationships with one person, a smaller percentage go about it with many different partners.
AHHH HAAA!!! They got you too, eh?!!! Women have a high sex drive with the right man. If you are the right man, it is like opening pandora's box.
Great points from Ruth, and ESPECIALLY the bolded part! Amen, sister. I will add that speaking for myself (and probably most women) we want more out of sex than JUST your thrusting, we need erotic kissing, stroking, massage and other types of extended foreplay to become fully aroused and have our orgasm. Too many men don't want to bother with any of that, so you can't blame us women for being picky/careful about who we have sex with.
At any rate, I find this an extremely interesting thread, I enjoyed your post, OP, and hope the discussion can continue and have this thread stay open.
Kinda sad, it's as if they don't really enjoy your bodies all that much.
Careful, now, partner. You keep bringing that common sense and critical thinking nonsense into these discussions and you're going to cause some forum members to blow a few gaskets. We just don't do critical thought around here. We're more into drama and ill conceived assumptions.
My husband and I were laughing because of the people who say they wouldn't want a female president because that ONE time a month they get all emotional.
But MEN have testosterone which has caused violence, raping, pillaging, etc. ALL THE TIME.
Lord forbid the woman needs a hankie to dry a tear!
Our hormones DO make a difference.
(and NO I am not saying a woman is going to cry in the boardroom. Just like men have learned to keep the testosterone under control, women have learned the same with estrogen)
__________________ ____________________________________________
My posts as a Mod will always be in red.
Be sure to review Terms of Service: TOS
And check this out: FAQ
Moderator: Relationships Forum / Hawaii Forum / Dogs / Pets / Current Events
Its scientific biology that men have 10-100 times more testosterone (aggressive hormone that drives sex) than women. It's simple biology at a elementary level.
I don't understand how women can argue this
It can be argued without hesitation because you may have more testosterone however, when a woman gets good sex when she wants it, she wants it all the time. Having more sex means wanting more sex.
Figure out how to accomplish that and you better hope your testosterone level is very high...
My husband and I were laughing because of the people who say they wouldn't want a female president because that ONE time a month they get all emotional.
But MEN have testosterone which has caused violence, raping, pillaging, etc. ALL THE TIME.
Because of all that testosterone MEN commit the majority of violent crimes all over the world. All those current senseless killing sprees are done by mentally ill violent male loners.
Unfortunately rape is a huge tactic done by male armies to humiliate and subdue the other side.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Women have a high sex drive with the right man. If you are the right man, it is like opening pandora's box. 
I will add that speaking for myself (and probably most women) we want more out of sex than JUST your thrusting, we need erotic kissing, stroking, massage and other types of extended foreplay to become fully aroused and have our orgasm. Too many men don't want to bother with any of that, so you can't blame us women for being picky/careful about who we have sex with.
