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I already knew I was wrong (or how it appeared to outside). As I said, I just wanted to discuss the matter and vent.
Nonetheless, this thread made me think about being more flexible. ie Going even if he doesnt walk her down the aisle just so long as no other man does.
I already knew I was wrong (or how it appeared to outside). As I said, I just wanted to discuss the matter and vent.
Nonetheless, this thread made me think about being more flexible. ie Going even if he doesnt walk her down the aisle just so long as no other man does.
It is not your wedding to decide that. You can't give an ultimatum or strings attached (I'll go as long as ____). NOT YOUR PLACE. Get over yourself. If you can't stand to see your sister happy on her wedding day, celebrating as SHE chooses to do so then don't go. She will be better off without you there. You have got to learn to swallow your pride. It isn't your day. It's clear you're not able to accept day for what it is; her day.
If you can man up and go and be there in whatever capacity she wants you to be (just attending, groomsman, walk her down aisle, etc) then I think you'll learn a valuable life lesson and also be happy for doing the selfless thing. It is, after all, her day and she can choose to celebrate however she wants. Though with your behavior you will be lucky to get an invite.
It is not your wedding to decide that. You can't give an ultimatum or strings attached (I'll go as long as ____). NOT YOUR PLACE. Get over yourself. If you can't stand to see your sister happy on her wedding day, celebrating as SHE chooses to do so then don't go. She will be better off without you there. You have got to learn to swallow your pride. It isn't your day. It's clear you're not able to accept day for what it is; her day.
If you can man up and go and be there in whatever capacity she wants you to be (just attending, groomsman, walk her down aisle, etc) then I think you'll learn a valuable life lesson and also be happy for doing the selfless thing. It is, after all, her day and she can choose to celebrate however she wants. Though with your behavior you will be lucky to get an invite.
Ofcourse it is not my wedding. But it is my body and I decide what I participate in and dont.
My sister is free to do anything she wants in her wedding. Not only that I will love her and hold no grudges no matter what she chooses. Now I might be disappointed, but that is life.
However, If I feel my sister is being vindictive to our father I will not support that.
Ofcourse it is not my wedding. But it is my body and I decide what I participate in and dont.
My sister is free to do anything she wants in her wedding. Not only that I will love her and hold no grudges no matter what she chooses. Now I might be disappointed, but that is life.
However, If I feel my sister is being vindictive to our father I will not support that.
I'm not going to be a broken record. Please read everyone else's responses ([mod cut]) as to why you are flawed and extremely selfish and out of line in your thinking. Again, if you need to justify your behavior to live with yourself then do what you have to do. Doesn't make what you're doing any more acceptable.
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Ofcourse it is not my wedding. But it is my body and I decide what I participate in and dont.
My sister is free to do anything she wants in her wedding. Not only that I will love her and hold no grudges no matter what she chooses. Now I might be disappointed, but that is life.
However, If I feel my sister is being vindictive to our father I will not support that.
Yet you support being vindictive to your sister. If she doesn't follow your demands on who walks her down the aisle (father or no one), you won't attend the wedding.
You knew there were problems when you were in high school, however you were largely missing in action after that as you took off to lead your own life.
Now she's leading hers.
While planning her wedding, she is considering doing it without your father's nutty behavior front and center.
Seems reasonable to me. Not sure why you believe you have the right to dictate her wedding plans.
But if you want to continue having a warm relationship with your sister, I'd get over that if I were you.
This has been echoed again and again. It is HER wedding. Stay out of it. Not your place to make her do what you want her to do.
Ive said this again and again, I do not want to make her do anything. I want her to do what she feels is right or wants to do. Cant fault anyone for being true to themselves or doing what they want.
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