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Old 06-26-2017, 01:58 PM
 
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But why would she be within her rights?
I'm not going to run off with another man nor have sex with one.
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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But why would she be within her rights?
I'm not going to run off with another man nor have sex with one.
She doesn't KNOW that for sure.

All she knows is that you were interested enough to search stuff online. And we know you are interested because you say you've had these crushes since your teens. It really just sounds like you're in denial. It's probably a big factor behind your anxiety.

At least be honest with yourself.
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:12 PM
 
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I''l say it again. You really don't know your wife very well do you. Or she you. How did you enter into this marriage knowing so little about each other? What compelled you to marry when you are unable to have sex with your wife?

You have to understand, OP, that she is not just going off your Internet searches when she suspects your attraction to men. You have certainly given her other indications in your intimate life (or lack thereof).

Have you had sexual experiences with women other than your wife?
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:14 PM
 
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Who said I am unable to have sex with her?
We do have sex - just not as often as we did.
And, yes, I've had sex with other women before I met my wife.
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:16 PM
 
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We do have sex - just not as often as we did..
That's not what you said in your OP. You said "not much." Which is not the same as "not AS much."

Why so little sex after just 8 months of marriage? And can't you see that this is part of her concern?
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:20 PM
 
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She admitted herself she has a low sex drive - it's nothing to do with anything else. She told me yesterday she never suspected anything about me.
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:26 PM
 
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She admitted herself she has a low sex drive - it's nothing to do with anything else. She told me yesterday she never suspected anything about me.
Well here is where the story falls apart. She never had any reason to suspect you, she has to turn you down for sex because you want it more than her, but because she finds one search history on "bisexuality" she is ready to end the marriage and your entire future lifetime together without even listening to your explanation of how it's caused by your anxiety (that she is usually so supportive of)?

What are we missing, OP?
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:27 PM
 
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Nothing!
You got it in a nutshell!
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:42 PM
 
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You'd better let her go then. If your story is true as you explained it, she is obviously looking for an excuse to leave and found one.
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Old 06-26-2017, 02:46 PM
 
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Not true.
We have been looking for a house for the past couple of months and she regularly brings up how she wants children together.
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