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I don't have any enemies. At my last job I worked with a girl who I didn't like and she didn't like me, and I am 99% certain she threw my clip board out, but there was no rooting for failure or anything. We just didn't interact more than we had to. I would not go so far at all as to say we hated or wished harm on each other.
No matter where you go in life, you create enemies. If you don't have enemies, you're not alive.
These people hate you and desire direct harm to you. They will find satisfaction when you lose, and take great pleasure in it. They will celebrate how it is to be your enemy.
How is it that we create enemies? Are we simply that basic and simplistic? Or is there a more important advantage with the reality of having enemies?
Totally disagree....I'm alive and as far as I know have no enemies that hate me and wish to harm me.
I think enemies are "created" when we foolishly listen to others and then judge people even when having never met them.
Do you really have people who want to harm you??? who hate you????
The only people I can think who would be like that are people who's religious beliefs are intollerant of others.
No-one I know would ever feel that way towards someone.
Maybe jealousy, or envy play a role in such misguided hate...who knows.
Sometimes people mean you harm (for their own personal gain) but they don't really hate you.
I can't imagine there to be any "advantage" to having enemies like the ones you describe....maybe one would become more cautious...or less trusting of others.
sounds like something someone who is really into drama, or maybe a bit paranoid would say.
Some people don't like me. Some avoid me. But nobody wants to "destroy" me.
No matter where you go in life, you create enemies. If you don't have enemies, you're not alive.
I've always found the idea of enemies to be strange. Simply discovering them was surprising, and even then they screwed themselves up at how hostile they were. Then I discovered enemies of my own.
How is it that we create enemies? Are we simply that basic and simplistic? Or is there a more important advantage with the reality of having enemies?
I honestly hope that anyone who's a decent person will never WANT enemies. That having an enemy is an unfortunate byproduct of something we did to irk the person.
Personality clashes are my #1 reason for why we have enemies. Someone who cannot handle us. I'm not saying we're ruthless and mean and cutthroat, but when we speak up about something that bothers us and the other person ends up feeling hurt, we unintentionally created an enemy.
I'm saying this because I'm going through this at work. My co-worker is like this. We're having this back-and-forth, passive aggressive way of hurting each other without even saying a word to each other. I want to stop this crap, but every time I stop, she does something blatant to avoid me, so I make a choice to stay away from her so I won't see her doing this, she senses this and does something blatant to avoid me again, and I again make a choice to stay away from her, and the cycle continues. It sounds childish and dumb, but if you were both of us, it hurts like a MOFO. It's called being a human being with emotions.
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I’m a supervisor for a banking department so I make a hell of a lot of enemies. Frankly, I’ve long stopped giving a about being hated so I do what I have to. I’ve accepted it as the dirty work of the dude who has to say no and call people on their BS.
Do and have I had people who didn't like me and vice versa? Sure. Did I have people at work and in life who tried to take me down? Sure. They failed, and I got stronger and smarter. Did I have people I hated or conspired against? Never. If you hate someone that much, you are hurting yourself more than you are hurting them.
As far as I know, I don’t have any. And I don’t consider anyone my personal enemy. I try to get along with everyone. If some hate me, so be it. I certainly don’t sit around pondering it.
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about being hated so I do what I have to. I’ve accepted it as the dirty work of the dude who has to say no and call people on their BS.
