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I think I will always consider Texas home even if i do move to Arizona or New Mexico.
Husband and I are native Texans
Lived for about 4 yrs in Shreveport and made some friends we still are in contact with but it never felt like home and we knew we would be moving at some point
We moved back to DFW area after that although it was new to us--we grew up and went to college in central TX south of Austin and east of San Antonio
We bought home 5 yrs ago in FL as second home because our daughter had married and moved to Sarasota area where her husband was living --he is from MS and never would go back there---
We don't consider FL home -- really have no friends outside our daughter's family but partly that is because we are just not outgoing people---don't have large group of friends in TX
We might move to FL full time in future but I don't think we would ever consider it home in the same sense we do Texas--
I mean home is really where my husband is--so I could live anyplace--but some maybe not as happily as others....
I've found it takes me a couple of years to become comfortable with a new place and appreciate its unique charms, and five years to get to the point where I felt I was settled in, had a circle of local friends, and considered the place my home. But it really depends on what you mean by "home".
I've lived in Virginia (twice), Illinois (twice), Iowa, Connecticut, and North Carolina. Since I was born in Virginia, I have a special fondness for it as a former home. There's no place I've lived that I would call a place I was glad to leave and have no intention to go back again. I've been blessed to live in some truly wonderful places in five different states - and I'm hoping to move back to one of the Carolinas by next fall.
Looking for my "home" until today. For me, home is where my husband and kids are. Lived in many places, never called any "my home", my birth country included. If I would have no husband and children I would be nomad.:-)
I still think about Indiana everyday. I read the local paper online, look at real estate, etc. I think I'm having a hard time bc I never planned to remain here but circumstances made a different reality.
I do have a good job here, the family member I cared about is dead. I do have a lot of friends there but I'm at the age where everyone is busy so it's not worth moving back for that.
I don't know how to get my brain to accept that I live in New York, quit watching the happenings in Indiana, quit thinking about how it is there, etc
I so understand that. I have experienced similar things... the way to "cure yourself" is to go back for a nice long visit, like maybe a week.
You will see that some things are the same and some are not. Your friends are busy busy busy with their own lives, and they have changed and grown. Or not... and that can be a real downer. It won't be the same in Indiana because time has passed and life is kinda like that, always changing.
The happy warm memories - yes you will still have them, but you can't relive them in the same place with the same people. Maybe the restaurant or bar you loved is closed now... street names changed, buildings are not the same etc. Might help you to go back and SEE it and bring you a little further toward closure.
Where I currently live - it took me about 6 weeks and it felt like home. Only because we had come here to FL a gazillion times house hunting, and I knew the area. I am happy to be in a new place where they are no bad and no sad memories, like the memories from Virginia. A fresh start and a chance to focus on positive things!
When we moved to SC, it never felt like home. We lived there 2 1/2 looooooooong, miserable years. A new job opportunity came up out of the blue and we relocated back to NY. We moved to a different area than we're from. We're in Western NY now and it's felt like home since the week we arrived! It feels more and more right like this is where we're supposed to be every week. Neither one of us plans on relocating ever again.
I've been living in NY for 5 years but it still doesn't feel like home.
It took me a long time to like TX. Years. In fact, I never really connected culturally (I'm cajun), although I learned to love the new state over time. It wasn't until I moved back to my home state that I realized how much I liked it in TX and hope to move back. I would never consider myself a Texan, but that doesn't mean I don't feel comfortable there and like it there.
I don't think you should expect for it to ever feel like the home state you left. And that's okay. NY seems like a great state. If I could go back in time, I'd probably move there as a young person.
I lived in Highland, just a few blocks from Munster; my family still does. I had a real good childhood friend from Munster. Her house was so close by--a continuation of the housing development where we lived, so one part of it was Highland the other was Munster--we'd ride our bikes to each other's houses.
The Meadows?
I actually went to OLG elementary school and Andrean HS. My mom and her husband were Highland residents but I stayed with my grandma in Munster.
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