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Old 06-24-2018, 06:02 PM
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Wanting a relationship but not being successful with the opposite sex.
This sounds like it's more based upon standards than choice. I don't have any issue finding someone to be with me, I think very few people have that problem. Finding someone I enjoy, however is an entirely different story.
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Old 06-24-2018, 06:04 PM
 
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This sounds like it's more based upon standards than choice. I don't have any issue finding someone to be with me, I think very few people have that problem. Finding someone I enjoy, however is an entirely different story.
Yeah, I think the key word in my post was "successful."
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Old 06-24-2018, 06:07 PM
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Yeah, I think the key word in my post was "successful."
I'm not sure what you're suggesting. That it's a matter of not possessing the proper skills to be coupled?
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Old 06-24-2018, 06:28 PM
 
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I'm not sure what you're suggesting. That it's a matter of not possessing the proper skills to be coupled?
Sometimes, yes.
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Old 06-24-2018, 06:50 PM
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Sometimes, yes.
Ok, some people don't have the proper skillset to develop a relationship. I imagine that's a very small percentile, like, maybe people who have been institutionalized for severe mental disorders. Other than that, I can't imagine what kind of person is incapable of forming a relationship.
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Old 06-24-2018, 07:11 PM
 
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Ok, some people don't have the proper skillset to develop a relationship. I imagine that's a very small percentile, like, maybe people who have been institutionalized for severe mental disorders. Other than that, I can't imagine what kind of person is incapable of forming a relationship.
May I suggest some reading material?

Relationship Forum.
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Old 06-24-2018, 07:20 PM
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May I suggest some reading material?

Relationship Forum.
That would be skewed sample group. Obviously a relationship forum will have an larger percentage of people struggling in relationships.
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Old 06-24-2018, 07:32 PM
 
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being alone
You have to define "being alone" these days.

Someone can live unmarried, single, disabled, in a small town but still be quite interconnected in today's digital world.

That was rather difficult a century ago.
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Old 06-25-2018, 03:39 AM
 
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Apparently a lot of people fear being alone - and will tolerate dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationships due to this fear.

How do you feel about being alone? Spending good chunks of time alone? Living alone? Have you done it, are you avoiding it due to fears, etc.
People who tolerate dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationships will eventually feel lonely in the relationship. The result is feelings of being unloved and that can bring fear. I have felt scared while alone at times so I get out and do something with other people.
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Old 06-25-2018, 04:47 AM
 
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in the modern age most people are programmed to want to be with others("humans are social animals" bull****)and are afraid of being alone, therefore when they are alone they are lonely instead of relishing the peace and quiet.
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