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I got stuck in a painful Uber ride that lasted far longer than it should with a flirty and sketchy driver. (Same partner for a long time, have had two kids with him so not dating. Just looking for insight into this behavior.)
The driver was a man of about 5'8, medium build, very skinny legs (got out of the car and was wearing shorts) and generally not a big guy. Yet he went on and on about how he used to be so muscular and big, worked out all the time, tough, etc. He also implied he was a great lover, had a lot of women chasing him, sort of a legend in looks and prowess, etc. This guy was average looking at best.
I found myself wondering "does this ever work? If a guy presents himself in a way that defies what people can actually see with their own eyes, does anyone ever start being hypnotized into believing his version of reality?"
And I realized that women do this too. I have a friend who insists she wears a certain size and is clearly a lot bigger than that. Yet she will go on and on. Maybe someone believes her, but if they do, its only because they are unfamiliar with women's attire.
I can't even imagine a convo with an Uber driver where something like that would be mentioned. Very strange.
Like I said, it was a painful, long and sketchy ride-- over two hours. Coming back from a conference and the bus we were all supposed to take broke down, so we got Ubers paid for by the company. I had a very long time stuck in this car due to Friday rush hour traffic but wanted desperately to get home. And this guy was not shutting up.
I got stuck in a painful Uber ride that lasted far longer than it should with a flirty and sketchy driver. (Same partner for a long time, have had two kids with him so not dating. Just looking for insight into this behavior.)
The driver was a man of about 5'8, medium build, very skinny legs (got out of the car and was wearing shorts) and generally not a big guy. Yet he went on and on about how he used to be so muscular and big, worked out all the time, tough, etc. He also implied he was a great lover, had a lot of women chasing him, sort of a legend in looks and prowess, etc. This guy was average looking at best.
I found myself wondering "does this ever work? If a guy presents himself in a way that defies what people can actually see with their own eyes, does anyone ever start being hypnotized into believing his version of reality?"
And I realized that women do this too. I have a friend who insists she wears a certain size and is clearly a lot bigger than that. Yet she will go on and on. Maybe someone believes her, but if they do, its only because they are unfamiliar with women's attire.
So what is up with this?
Sometimes it does, most times it doesn't; depending on the person. Obviously, it didn't work for you.
Yes, it works. It's that kind of attitude that helps guys who look like Steven Tyler and Mick Jagger become legendary rock stars.
Of course, it only works well if you actually have other talents to back up your BS.
Did you dock him on his rating?
Yes. He had also asked for a tip, which is a big no no. And wanted me to refuse the ride so I could give him cash for it instead of Uber paying him. There was a lot going on.
I get that confidence can be appealing, but this was delusion.
Sometimes it does, most times it doesn't; depending on the person. Obviously, it didn't work for you.
But how does this work?
If I see an average looking guy who starts to brag about his exceptional physical attributes, and I can clearly see that he doesn't have said attributes, how does that make him appealing to me?
If I see an average looking guy who starts to brag about his exceptional physical attributes, and I can clearly see that he doesn't have said attributes, how does that make him appealing to me?
It works, just not on you.
I'm sure you've seen men you would never be interested in who are married to women who, apparently, found them attractive.
If I see an average looking guy who starts to brag about his exceptional physical attributes, and I can clearly see that he doesn't have said attributes, how does that make him appealing to me?
Lol, some guys can be braggadocios. Its quite normal in a lot of men, and women, too. Its no big deal.
I'm sure you've seen men you would never be interested in who are married to women who, apparently, found them attractive.
Its not just about me not finding someone attractive or not. Its this...attempt at hypnosis.
Its like if I insisted the sky was yellow and it was actually blue. Would anyone really be convinced it was yellow?
Or if I said over and over "I am a genius!" and I was clearly not that bright. Would anyone believe me? (Oh wait, I know of an example where that DID work....and we all hear it on the news.)
Its not even an exaggeration. Its a flat out falsehood masquerading as fact. There has to be some kind of implicit agreement that this version of events is actually true. So I am wondering a) who is buying into this and b) how many people does this work on? And c) is there ever a day when someone who bought this line of BS wakes up and says "I don't know why I was taken in by that?"
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