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When the subject is broached regarding topics which are things somebody your age should have accomplished by now, is it wrong to deceive people who do not know your past into believing that you haven't missed some major developmental milestones? Is it a waste of time to try to play the catch up game? Or unscrupulous to lie about your age (ha wouldn't this one would be exciting)?
When the subject is broached regarding topics which are things somebody your age should have accomplished by now, is it wrong to deceive people who do not know your past into believing that you haven't missed some major developmental milestones? Is it a waste of time to try to play the catch up game? Or unscrupulous to lie about your age (ha wouldn't this one would be exciting)?
I think lying about milestones and such superficial stuff is just setting you back. There's no reason to lie to people unless it will directly help you avoid really unpleasant circumstances.
But in everyday conversations I think it's more interesting to talk honestly about the supposed milestones and maybe why you haven't reached them or even how to reach them in case you still want to. It's a chance to grow
I'm guessing you're talking about meeting new people who like to ask personal questions? Say...the middle aged lady at your new place of employment asking if you have a GF, when in fact, you're a virgin...that kind of thing?
IMO, it's best not to lie, simply because then you have to start keeping track of what you said to who. BUT, if there are topics you anticipate will make you uncomfortable, practice a response that will stop further inquiry. Think about the things you DON'T want to discuss. The things you fear will come up in conversation...and think of a response to that. Practice in front of the mirror even, so you get the right facial expressions down, to go with your statements.
I'm thinking of likely milestones...
Still living at home with parents? "I've had some setbacks."
Never had a date? "Haven't met the right woman/man yet."
Haven't bought a house yet? "I'm not ready to buy a house yet."
(These are just some typical "milestones" people measure themselves by. Your mileage may differ.)
And if people are so rude as to keep pressuring you, there's always the good ol standby "I'm not comfortable talking about this with you."
Be honest and be yourself. If someone doesn't accept your honesty and truthfulness, they aren't worth investing your time with. And yes, that includes family members. People love other's honesty until they are honest with them. Many times, the questions they ask are seriously none of their business. Be the best YOU that YOU can be -- regardless of others opinions.
In the Marine Corps we always allude to the fact that what a person thinks about me (us) behind our back is none of our business and really doesn't matter at the end of the day. I live out that motto....
I don't think it's really anyone's business. I'm not sure exactly what you mean, but to me many 'milestones' are cultural. There are plenty of things I haven't done in my life because it wasn't a part of our family traditions. I didn't really care one way or another if we did it. It simply wasn't important to me.
When the subject is broached regarding topics which are things somebody your age should have accomplished by now, is it wrong to deceive people who do not know your past into believing that you haven't missed some major developmental milestones? Is it a waste of time to try to play the catch up game?
It's a waste of time to worry about what others think. Whether you've accomplished matters or not is you're own business. Plus you can't change the past. So, avoid all of that.
And yes, avoid lies too.
You don't even need to engage in conversation. You have the freedom to not comment or say anything. Then you have no need to decide whether to tell the truth or something else. People are endlessly nosey and petty. Some love to toy with belittle others, if you let them. Be in charge, and shut it down.
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