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I am probably more coy and sexually suggestive on CD than in real life......that is what was meant, right? A comparison and not a question that first we work it up on CD and THEN we go do it in real life?
I'm told I am coy and sexually aggressive in real life. I must be doing something wrong here!
I didnt know where to put this so mods feel free to move the thread. So, a question to to my fellow CD'ers. Do you feel like you can pretty much say whatever the bleep you want on CD so long as there are no curse words or ranting personal attacks? There seem to be a lot of posts about things such as heated and sometimes demeaning and insulting arguments, people openly admitting to adultery, people openly admitting they're LGBT along with the fact that they've told absolutely no one else but CD etc...... It's like we all develop Asperger's once we get on an internet forum. I certainly do it, though now that I've been on here a while and am on my third account I've toned down quite a bit. And I dont mean to cast a negative light on the question. It's a lot cheaper then therapy.
I m very shy and sheepish in real life but can write well. Cant take any if the onlune qualities to real life.
I write more straightforwardly than I speak. In real life I'm more goofy, dry humour, that sort of thing. Which don't always translate well to the written word, so I tone it down. I don't swear here, either, or use even the milder oaths. I'm a sailor on shore leave sometimes in real life (depending on audience, of course).
My opinions and viewpoints are exactly what I express on CD or off, though. The only difference is how I express them.
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Why would it be like we all develop Asperger's once we get on an internet forum? I have Asperger's already! Asperger's doesn't describe a person's personality, only a social development condition.
I would have to say that I'm no different in person then I am on City Data. I've had only one account and one infraction in the 9 years I've been a guest here. Given that the political forum is pretty rough and tumble, I think that's pretty good. I think the infraction had more to do with someone who wanted to dish it out but couldn't take it when it was delivered back.
I've often said that I can be your best friend or your worst enemy, you choose.
What you see is what you get with me, either here or in real life. I'm not shy.
I rarely confront people about their stupid ideas in real life, but occasionally say what I think here. I don't call them names or use foul language, I just explain how and why I disagree with their ridiculous notions. I'm clear that my post isn't going to change the way they think, but sometimes it feels good to let the world know that not everybody thinks the same way. Many people seem to be afraid to disagree with the prevailing sentiment in a thread, thinking they're alone. Heck, it's just the internet; I'm okay being a lone voice.
For instance, on another forum (where I knew a lot of members in real life), people were complaining about a guy who put extremist signs on his truck and parked on a busy thoroughfare. Some posters were talking about violence against him. I posted that I disagreed with his viewpoint, but felt he had a right to express it. Several more posters agreed with me, and the thread lost its angry, violent feel. I wonder how the insurrection at the Capitol would have gone if a few reasonable people had spoken up.
I also usually wait a bit after responding emotionally to a post; about half the time, I just delete it because writing got it out of my system. I'll also sometimes edit a post to dial down the emotions.
I have found that nothing here has any real ability to provoke much emotion on my part. The only times I have had that problem, have been situations where I was already at my wits' end about some other problem in my life, very raw about whatever it was, and made the huge mistake of sharing it here. I know better now, and tend to wait until I'm cool and calm before I discuss anything I'm sensitive about, or just to keep such a subject off the boards completely.
But if I'm not already there, nothing that anyone can say on this site is gonna take me to an emotionally upset kind of a place. Though likely I may be perceived as such at times when I'm deploying sarcasm or hyperbole to make a point. Tone doesn't convey, and that can make things tricky sometimes when no one knows that you are typing something in a cucumber-cool state of mind, but exaggerating for effect.
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