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I get what I call "surface irritated" pretty often (it comes and goes quickly). I will generally say something snarky, even if it's just to myself! I don't get truly angry very often.
But when I do, I tend to go cold. Beware the coldness! I get less verbal, and more thoughtful, generally because I'm contemplating my options and some of them aren't going to be pleasant to the other person! This is the point where I'll say something along the lines of "If you do X again, this is what is going to happen." My problem is that I seem so calm that the other person generally doesn't believe me - but I'm dead serious.
Twice in my life I've gotten so mad that I have yelled and thrown things. This was accompanied by crying. If I get super, super mad, or caught off guard by someone doing something terrible, I may cry. I generally don't throw things because then I just have to pick them up or clean up a mess and it's not worth it to me. I probably haven't thrown anything in over 20 years. I don't remember the last time I cried out of anger but I know it's happened before so I can't rule it out. When it happened, I wanted to tell everyone "I'm not sad, I'm MAD, so get out of my way and DO NOT PAT ME ON THE BACK!"
We all "lose it" from time to time (well, most of us!).
When you are about to blow your top, what do you DO to let off some steam?
Count to 10, throw things, yell, walk away, slam the door?
I've gotten short-tempered in my old age and am not proud of my short fuse.
We have hand-made, solid hardwood doors and once I found out how satisfying it was to slam them, I do that. Terrible, I know.
I try to limit yelling 'cause we're in a condo. I've thrown stuff too, but not at anyone. Nothing dangerous or valuable---
The worst is that I'll strike my own forehead with my open palm over and over, out of frustration.
Are you all calm and collected, or do you let it rip sometimes?
I usually wait until I am certain no one is around and then I have a slight eruption. I myself have gotten not so much short-tempered, but impatient.
I've once gotten emotional enough to put my hand through a wall.
However, if a friend is around me and won't leave me alone while I am having my explosive moment, I will just shout something crazy and absurd and actually funny.
Bottling up is not good. What about punching bags? Does anyone go to the gym and take it there?
The other day I took apart a beaded necklace someone gave me and that was quite satisfying to destroy something, lol. My hand were shaking, but it did the trick.
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