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Let me preface by saying I do believe you are born gay and you most likely know at a young age but this wasn’t as common 20, 30 years ago. I didn’t know anyone when I was a kid in the 80’s and 90’s and I don’t think it was a case of many being afraid to come out because I don’t know many that came out later I feel maybe some are confused now by the over abundance of teachings and maybe they think it’s trendy? Your thoughts?
I knew a few kids in high school in the late 80 who were gay, bi or lesbian in smalltown South Carolina. I later became friends with one of them at work and she said shewas afraid of people finding out she was a lesbian, so she dated guys -- she dated one of my male friends -- and kept her one girlfriend at the time secret. It ws a big mess when someone found a love note between her and a girlfriend though meaning her fears were well-founded. Kids were not friendly to either one of them back then.
In 2022, a lot of people are not as judgmental about alternative lifestyles. We have all seen what can happen when you hide your true self and it's not pretty. Folks feel a little more open to coming out. I don't think many people turn gay because it is "trendy."
Not sure this thread should not be in another forum, either great Debates or P&OC.
I’m not saying they become gay because they think it’s trendy. As I said I think you are born gay not become gay. I mean they experiment or do things they think are woke.
Let me preface by saying I do believe you are born gay and you most likely know at a young age but this wasn’t as common 20, 30 years ago. I didn’t know anyone when I was a kid in the 80’s and 90’s and I don’t think it was a case of many being afraid to come out because I don’t know many that came out later I feel maybe some are confused now by the over abundance of teachings and maybe they think it’s trendy? Your thoughts?
OP I believe I am your age. I went to a public high school and the captain of our cheerleading squad was very out and either a lesbian or bisexual. I recognize my HS was unusual, particularly since my city had a pretty large/well known LGBT community at the time. I worked in call centers in the late ‘90s and there was a trans floor manager at one of them who wore skirts/dresses all the time and it didn’t seem to be a huge deal there. I think my college put diversity awareness workers in the dorms starting in the mid-‘90s and when I was there, the LGBTQ+ community was huge.
I’m not saying they become gay because they think it’s trendy. As I said I think you are born gay not become gay. I mean they experiment or do things they think are woke.
Do you think there is something wrong with experimenting at that age?
It’s more acceptable now, more out in the open. I do believe some would have been ashamed and either not allowed themselves that experimentation or had kept it a secret in past generations. I’m not sure if that is good or bad.
I do agree, it is more acceptable to be “bi -curious”
In the 80s, I knew high-school and college-age guys who were gay. I also knew lesbians and girls/women who were bisexual, though not any overtly bisexual guys. The bisexual young women were very popular with some guys who were hoping for a threesome! They all seemed genuine at the time, and the few I am still in touch will never changed.
But a couple of my straight-presenting acquaintances did.
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I'm nearly convinced that with females it's a natural tendency to try it, and recent trends are making it more acceptable and therefore more common and visible now.
Over the years I have had 4 female employees (2 here, 2 in California) that were lesbians living with their partner. Each of them later married a man and had kids. On the other hand, all of the gay men I have known remained gay and several have married their male partner.
Let me preface by saying I do believe you are born gay and you most likely know at a young age but this wasn’t as common 20, 30 years ago. I didn’t know anyone when I was a kid in the 80’s and 90’s and I don’t think it was a case of many being afraid to come out because I don’t know many that came out later I feel maybe some are confused now by the over abundance of teachings and maybe they think it’s trendy? Your thoughts?
It's actually not that unusual for teens to experiment with a same-sex relationship or infatuation, before moving on to the opposite sex. Nowadays, they don't have to hide it, so we're hearing about it. How old are these kids? Wait a few years, and see if they've found a normative relationship.
I knew a few kids in high school in the late 80 who were gay, bi or lesbian in smalltown South Carolina. I later became friends with one of them at work and she said shewas afraid of people finding out she was a lesbian, so she dated guys -- she dated one of my male friends -- and kept her one girlfriend at the time secret. It ws a big mess when someone found a love note between her and a girlfriend though meaning her fears were well-founded. Kids were not friendly to either one of them back then.
In 2022, a lot of people are not as judgmental about alternative lifestyles. We have all seen what can happen when you hide your true self and it's not pretty. Folks feel a little more open to coming out. I don't think many people turn gay because it is "trendy."
Not sure this thread should not be in another forum, either great Debates or P&OC.
I agree. We had a good friend in high school that we didn't know was gay, but he told my bff years later that he and another boy in school had a secret relationship in high school. This was around 1979-1980. He wouldn't have dared to be public about it.
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