What was the most life-changing piece of psychological advice you’ve ever received (dating, people)

[animalcrazy]

An old friend told me not to be a door mat. She was right. People will bleed you dry. She was a narcissist so I finally dumped her. However, those words still resonate. I'm a giver not a taker by nature, and I've found myself in situations when saying no was the right thing to do.

[Lodestar]

Animalcrazy's posts reminds me of another one.

Never overlook the unpleasant ones. We learn from them, also.

Some of my best lessons have come from unpleasant experiences.

[farm108]

"Mind your own business."

[City Guy997S]

Here are a few I've liked over the years:

Friend retiring after 41 years, needed to finish a sizable warranty job:

"I didn't start this business by taking any short cuts and I'm certainly not closing with any short cuts!"

2. Education can never be taken away from you!

3. Tell the truth, be honest..............it might not be what they want to hear but you certainly won't need to explain yourself later!

[BijouBaby]

Originally Posted by sheena12

"Don't put all of your eggs in one basket" I have found that to be true in so many diverse situations. Thanks mom.

"Your friends are a reflection of you. Be sure that you like who you see."also mom

"When someone shows (or tells) you who they are, believe them!" Maya Angelou. This saved me from a man who told me he was sexually licentious in a word used mostly for women, and another who drank too much, I had to drive, and later threw up on me.

If someone has no friends, does this mean they don't exist?

[bus man]

"It's better to be alone than wish you were." Words from my father, when I complained about not having a girlfriend.

[L8Gr8Apost8]

Originally Posted by animalcrazy

An old friend told me not to be a door mat. She was right. People will bleed you dry. She was a narcissist so I finally dumped her. However, those words still resonate. I'm a giver not a taker by nature, and I've found myself in situations when saying no was the right thing to do.

That's a lot like why I was told to be careful who I projected my empathy onto. I think it was just a nice way of telling me not to be a doormat.

[farm108]

In his book, "Feeling Good - The New Mood Therapy", Dr. David Burns wrote: “Motivation does
not come first; action does. You have to prime the pump. If you wait until you are in the mood,
you may wait forever. When you don’t feel like doing something, you tend to put it off. It is
often after we become involved in a task that it becomes highly motivating.”

[Wile E. Coyote]

Be yourself. This means do not be one person at the office and a different person at home. This means being your same fully authentic self all the time. It's a lot like being honest (and do that too).

[EyeOnMadisonStreet]

"C'mon, just try it' It won't hurt you."