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Ive never cheated on my SO in any relationship, despite insane opportunities that still occasionaly haunt me today. Ive been cheated on several times however, and each time I ended the relationship right away, without hesitation. I had no idea women cheat so much more than men. Shame.
Ive never cheated on my SO in any relationship, despite insane opportunities that still occasionaly haunt me today. Ive been cheated on several times however, and each time I ended the relationship right away, without hesitation. I had no idea women cheat so much more than men. Shame.
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Some people can and do change. It may be as hard to find as true love but it definitely happens--esp when someone meets that true love and it's mutual. I guess that goes without saying (the latter) as it can't be true love unless it's reciprocated.
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Originally Posted by misiu007
Ive never cheated on my SO in any relationship, despite insane opportunities that still occasionaly haunt me today. Ive been cheated on several times however, and each time I ended the relationship right away, without hesitation. I had no idea women cheat so much more than men. Shame.
Please cite statistics....where did you get this information that they cheat more? I'd like to read that and see the basis for their findings.
I believe that past behavior can indicate an increased *probability* that the same behavior will be repeated again if similar conditions persist. I won't go so far as to make a blanket statement such as "once a cheater always a cheater".
I'd say the majority of relationship problems that are mentioned here seem to have at the root either a communication problem, one or more partners who are immature/inexperienced, or both. Once someone starts using too many blanket statement to describe all men or women -- it is a sign to me that there is an inexperienced person trying to grasp complex adult relationship issues.
How about a candid conversation? Ask the person if they want monogamy? If you don't trust the response for some reason than move on.
Every relationship is different, just because a person's needs were not met in one relationship, does not mean that a different relationship, with another person, will not meet that person's needs. Evaluate every thing on a case by case basis.
I don't know. I think people can change. I certainly don't excuse cheating, far from it, but I also think there are situations so awful that an ordinarily good person can stray. In situations that involve abusive spouses or loveless marriages, I think people can be driven into the arms of another out of sheer desperation. And when they have the courage to finally end matters, then they are happy with the outcome and don't cheat again.
I have, technically, cheated. "Technically" meaning I didn't resist the opportunity, but I did leave my relationship as soon as it happened. I know my reasons and I have no regrets, nor do I feel any shame. I consider myself to be an exceptionally good woman. You'll rarely find someone as honorable and devoted as I am. But I place value in what actually has value. If it has none, I have no loyalty to it.
I have technically cheated too — on a college boyfriend, when I was about 22 — and I left the relationship immediately. I don't regret leaving the relationship, but I DO regret the way I left it. Sleeping with someone else was a really sh*tty way to say, "Hey, I want to break up with you, sorry!"
The big difference between the woman I was then and the woman I am now is that I'm an emotional grown-up and now realize why this passive-aggressive way of "breaking up" is so very hurtful (and chicken-sh*t). Would I ever do it again? No! I'd use my words.
I find this to be true. Anyone want to share stories of the truth of this idea (to predict future behavior , look to past behavior) or on the other hand, stories of the falseness of this, maybe someone changed thier behavior. What's on my mind is infidelity. thank-you for your responses.
It depends on the person.
I've heard Dr. Phil say this a lot and many instances he's probably right, but people DO and CAN change as they get older.
Most people change with each new decade and some, unfortunately, never get the memo.
I've heard Dr. Phil say this a lot and many instances he's probably right, but people DO and CAN change as they get older.
Dr Phil??? Really???
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