Who Pays in an Early Relationship (date, women, lover, sex)

[thewaywewere]

So my date and I have been going out for 1 month now. We meet very frequently( every other day). He's talking about making a short trip to las vages. Should I offer to pay my own ticket and stuff?( first he said he will pay, the second time he said ticket is kinda expensive. i just feel kinda embarassing talking about money with him

Also, he refers me as " lover" which kinda bothers me. is it normal to call your date " lover"? does it mean it's more like a physical type relationship?

Thanks for your opinnions.)

[JustJulia]

"The ticket is kind of expensive" = "I want you to pay for your own ticket." If you want to go, pay for your own ticket and bring enough money to split the hotel and pay for all your own meals, entertainment and gambling. If you can't afford it, don't go. If you don't want to shell out the money, don't go.

I believe that when people invite others to an event, they are the hosts and pay for it. Expecting a person you've known for a month to pay $500 or more for your weekend doesn't make a lot of sense from that standpoint.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by thewaywewere

So my date and I have been going out for 1 month now. We meet very frequently( every other day). He's talking about making a short trip to las vages. Should I offer to pay my own ticket and stuff?( first he said he will pay, the second time he said ticket is kinda expensive. i just feel kinda embarassing talking about money with him

no need to offer, IMO, especially if he proposed the idea.

Also, he refers me as " lover" which kinda bothers me. is it normal to call your date " lover"?

normal for some people >> http://www.hulu.com/watch/4135/satur...e-patio-lovers

but some people aren't normal.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by thewaywewere

So my date and I have been going out for 1 month now. We meet very frequently( every other day). He's talking about making a short trip to las vages. Should I offer to pay my own ticket and stuff?( first he said he will pay, the second time he said ticket is kinda expensive. i just feel kinda embarassing talking about money with him

Also, he refers me as " lover" which kinda bothers me. is it normal to call your date " lover"? does it mean it's more like a physical type relationship?

Thanks for your opinnions.)

Sounds like you slept with him too soon and now the lines are blurred.

[lovesMountains]

So, if you want a real relationship with him, and not just a physical one, I'd suggest you quit giving him the idea that sex with you can be bought.

Buy your own ticket to Vegas and get your own room. DATE for a while - geez, it's only been a month

[hnsq]

I (as a guy) would expect a women to pay half of everything we do.

This is 2010. Not 1950. Equal rights means men and women splitting the tab on everything equally.

[DaBurgh]

Is he being sarcastic when calling you lover? It's odd to use that label this early in the relationship - I don't think I would.

[sophialee]

If he invited you to go he should pay, doesn't seem like wants to anymore tho.

[sophialee]

Originally Posted by hnsq

I (as a guy) would expect a women to pay half of everything we do.

This is 2010. Not 1950. Equal rights means men and women splitting the tab on everything equally.

No it doesn't. Equal rights pertains to the law. If you don't want to pay for your dates, don't. But it has nothing to do with equal rights.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by sophialee

If he invited you to go he should pay, doesn't seem like wants to anymore tho.

Yeah, that's why I told her to bring enough money and anticipate paying. It will be really awkward when the first dinner check comes and he says, "Do you want to get this one or the next one?" if she cannot afford it.