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I started dating when I was 14. By the time I was in college, I was sick and tired of the dating game. I prefered to be by myself with a good book.
None of my three sons dated until they got into college. Some of their friends dated in high school, most did not.
But that's not the way things are today. There is pressure to date and "be popular." That's a bunch of crappola. Games may change but people do not. You don't NEED to date. If you don't want to, you are ahead of those that feel that they should.
Wait until you meet someone that you think is worth dating.
I don't think it's abnormal, but I do think it's a good idea to "date" a little at your age. This is the time during your life to learn the social graces. That doesn't mean you need to have a "relationship", but it's good to learn to be comfortable on a date, go out to a nice restaurant with a date, dance, etc. It would be smart to let your date know that you don't want a relationship with her nor anyone else, that you're not ready for any commitments, but you'd like to date now and then rather than just hangout with the guys.
Dating need not be complicated. It can just mean that you're going to a movie with a girl instead of with another guy. We all need to learn how to get along with both sexes, and the sooner we can do that the better.
I was getting my bone on at age 16. However, not everyone was doing what I was doing though. Its alot different for guys and girls. If a guy said this to me at age 16, I wouldn't think much of it. However, I think he would get crap for it and people may think hes gay.
The current girl I'm dating didn't really get into dating until she was 20. She has a much different background than I did...her father didn't allow her to date at all.
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I figured this would be the best forum to ask with as many people that are here that have experience on this, so here goes nothing:
I'm 16 years old, and haven't been interested in dating thus far in my life. I want to get my career going(plan on going in to law enforcement) before I go in to a relationship. I'm just curious if anyone here did this when they were younger/are doing it now, etc.
I also want to know if you guys think it's a bad or good thing, or if it really doesn't matter. Any pros/cons to doing it/not doing it?
Not a problem! My daughter (who was a serial dater since age 14) had a couple friends who never dated until college, and there was nothing at all wrong with them. Way less drama in their life though, that's for sure. Most teens who date really aren't emotionally ready, but they do it anyway.
I think people are lacking somewhere when they reach out for dating at such a young age.
You should be doing other things.
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