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Usually people speak of love at first sight. This I don't believe in so much. But hate at first sight? Recently there was a guy who showed up at my workplace. For a combination of reasons, I found myself really hating everything about him. The arrogant mannerisms, the proselytizing manner of speech, the rudeness and abruptness of the strange things he says, how he brags about his wife and kid (neither of whom are anything special). He is fairly unattractive, but probably doesn't know it. I'm not sure if he is being a dbag on purpose.
I am probably being a bit harsh but the nasty chemistry cannot be denied. I've tried to be friendly at first but so far it has backfired and made me hate him even more. We might have interacted for 20 minutes at most in 2 weeks but it is enough to permanently close the doors of interaction. It does not help that his face is devoid of expression (can't stand people like that).
Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Ive only came across some people that irk me in the wrong way..My intuition is very keen.. I can read people...The negative souls are the ones I stay away from...
Usually people speak of love at first sight. This I don't believe in so much. But hate at first sight? Recently there was a guy who showed up at my workplace. For a combination of reasons, I found myself really hating everything about him. The arrogant mannerisms, the proselytizing manner of speech, the rudeness and abruptness of the strange things he says, how he brags about his wife and kid (neither of whom are anything special). He is fairly unattractive, but probably doesn't know it. I'm not sure if he is being a dbag on purpose.
I am probably being a bit harsh but the nasty chemistry cannot be denied. I've tried to be friendly at first but so far it has backfired and made me hate him even more. We might have interacted for 20 minutes at most in 2 weeks but it is enough to permanently close the doors of interaction. It does not help that his face is devoid of expression (can't stand people like that).
Has this ever happened to anyone else?
The people I don't like are the ones that are insensitive to the others around them. Like, they talk loudly and about themselves and never once ask you about yourself and haven't even realized that they haven't asked you about you. It's like, they just need ANYONE as an audience and they're talking AT YOU and not TO YOU.
The closest I've come to "hate at first sight" is coming across people who reminded me of past abusers. My first reaction was to hate them and be angry at them, but of course I didn't really hate them, I hated what they represented for me.
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Originally Posted by lisalan Can someone explain this phenomenon to me. This annoys me to no end. Why is it ok to talk to me one day and ignore me the next?
Quite simply, its passive aggressive behavior. The whole point, to drive you crazy.
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Originally Posted by virgode
Quite simply, its passive aggressive behavior. The whole point, to drive you crazy.
I think it's because the person is crazy, self-important, and immature tw4t who thinks their various moods should affect the mood of other people. Usually it takes one such incident before I never talk to them again. Then they are left wondering why I no longer talk to them -- ever again -- and they think I'm the one being "moody." There are 8 billion people in this world, why get hung up on one insignificant dbag?
Good point about it being nature's way of preventing a bad mating. *shiver* That is a nasty thought.
The second our hands touched it was like a jolt of negative energy for both of us and our expressions just shifted so drastically that my supervisor not only stood there uncomfortably, looking back and forth between us, but later came to me wanting to know if we'd met before and something bad had happened.
I've never understood it, have wondered if other people encounter such things; apparently they do.
Nothing that drastic has ever happened to me yet - but the negativity escalates very suddenly and stepwise, worsening with each interaction. What you describe is freaky.
Usually I try hard to overcome my initial biases, and most of the time it works. But I can't deny that there are people out there that create horrible chemical reactions when mixed.
Well, no. The only way I'll not like somebody is if I get that vibe from them that they don't like me. Then they get on my hate list.
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There are 8 billion people in this world, why get hung up on one insignificant dbag?
