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Here's the deal.....I have a male friend that I have been very good friends with since I was in middle school. We have been through a great deal together, college, marriage, kids, job issues etc. We have lived in seperate states for many years now but have kept in weekly contact with calls and emails. He is married with kids as am I. The problem? my husband does not approve of the friendship. I am much younger than he (my husband) which I think has something to do with it but he's the type that doesnt believe that a married woman should have a friendship with a man. I would agree to this to some extent so I can understand how he feels in a way. He wants me to cut off all contact which I havent done because I think its ridiculous. Advice?
Get rid of your controlling, overbearing, older husband. He obviously has self-esteem issues. You shouldn't have to change your platonic friendships for anybody, much less yor insecure husband.
Wow Twinkle,
That is harsh and cold. Her husband is very important and she might be conniving him to feel insecure and jealous by being withholding and bragging about how awesome her friendship is with another male......she also might be selfish and never focus on his needs or wants. Get it NOW?
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
Get rid of your controlling, overbearing, older husband. He obviously has self-esteem issues. You shouldn't have to change your platonic friendships for anybody, much less yor insecure husband.
utterly based on your report, its an internet relationship a good one a strong one and a long one.
it could easily turn into something else given the right circumstances.
he sounds worried about his marriage. the 2 issues are not connected.
Wow Twinkle,
That is harsh and cold. Her husband is very important and she might be conniving him to feel insecure and jealous by being withholding and bragging about how awesome her friendship is with another male......she also might be selfish and never focus on his needs or wants. Get it NOW?
The tone of her post didn't sound as if she is in any way leading her husband in the wrong direction. She said weekly calls and emails. I didn't detect at all there was anything "extra" going on between she and her friend. I still believe her husband has the problem.
Wow Twinkle,
That is harsh and cold. Her husband is very important and she might be conniving him to feel insecure and jealous by being withholding and bragging about how awesome her friendship is with another male......she also might be selfish and never focus on his needs or wants. Get it NOW?
good points...I dont mention the friendship because I know its a sore spot. I think he is insecure in general. Great guy really, just insecure. I just dont see the point with ending a friendship that is and has been harmless....oh, and I dont like him telling me to do it either.
Find out what your husband needs to feel secure. It's that simple. Be a good wife
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Originally Posted by texgrl
good points...I dont mention the friendship because I know its a sore spot. I think he is insecure in general. Great guy really, just insecure. I just dont see the point with ending a friendship that is and has been harmless....oh, and I dont like him telling me to do it either.
If you mate feels respected and secure than usually the contact with someone else is not a problem. Make sure he is getting the attention he needs. If you are communicating with your friend so much are you outletting to him and not to your husband. Ask your husband...
Tell him you will cut back and then keep in contact but don't mention it. Then give your hubby lots of attention, praise and support and see what happens.
Like I said find out what the husband's needs and wants are........that is what a wife is for........to meet some of those needs and wants....
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Originally Posted by driftwoodpoint
If you mate feels respected and secure than usually the contact with someone else is not a problem. Make sure he is getting the attention he needs. If you are communicating with your friend so much are you outletting to him and not to your husband. Ask your husband...
Tell him you will cut back and then keep in contact but don't mention it. Then give your hubby lots of attention, praise and support and see what happens.
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