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Maybe the OP isn't spending "quality time" or going on dates with the hubby. Otherwise it wouldn't be a problem.
No Artsy, some people are just insecure like that. I had a best friend who married a moron who was super jealous of anybody she was friends with. He tried his best to force her to give up any friendships or relationships outside of theirs, and it backfired on his sorry *ss. She divorced him and I got to serve the disso papers!
Personally, I am a very secure person and my husband does in fact have friendships with many beautiful, intelligent, affluent women - he's an attorney, so of course he is going to interact with these ladies on a daily basis. I am not the least bit concerned about it, as I too have my own life and my own sets of friends - both male and female. I would never even think to tell him he wasn't "allowed" to have these people as friends. And if he ever said that to me, he knows where the door is and I would hope it wouldn't hit him on the way out.
For some reason you just made me feel warm and fuzzy inside............................
Here's the deal.....I have a male friend that I have been very good friends with since I was in middle school. We have been through a great deal together, college, marriage, kids, job issues etc. We have lived in seperate states for many years now but have kept in weekly contact with calls and emails. He is married with kids as am I. The problem? my husband does not approve of the friendship. I am much younger than he (my husband) which I think has something to do with it but he's the type that doesnt believe that a married woman should have a friendship with a man. I would agree to this to some extent so I can understand how he feels in a way. He wants me to cut off all contact which I havent done because I think its ridiculous. Advice?
your husband is probably jealous....and intimidated that the male friend is your age....while it's not always fair to have to give up your male friends when you get married...well, if it's going to cause a problem then, I would give up the male friend, b/c my husband's feelings have to come first.
maybe later, down the road, he'll change his mind...
I do have friends who do have male friends, and they're husbands are not intimidated in the least...but the point here is, that your husband's hurt by it...therefore, I would let go of the male friend.
For some reason you just made me feel warm and fuzzy inside............................
But allow me to further clarify, if I may ... neither of us has ever given the other a reason to be jealous of or intimidated by other people. Once someone gives a reason, then I could see it and maybe even agree to a "no friends of the opposite sex rule".
But allow me to further clarify, if I may ... neither of us has ever given the other a reason to be jealous of or intimidated by other people. Once someone gives a reason, then I could see it and maybe even agree to a "no friends of the opposite sex rule".
sorry it doesn't work like that, while others do think and feel as you do, your husband and others don't.
It's not about no friends of the opposite sex, but what it may be more about is the frequency of the friendship, or if you spend time with the friend alone without hubby...
I had male friends to, but my husband was always there with us...never did I meet them alone, or do anything with them alone...b/c my husband was jealous. My male friends that I knew since high school understood, they surely didn't want to cause my husband any reason for fear or discomfort...
again, if he didn't have an issue with it ok, but I guess you have to ask yourself, who is more important to you.....
life isn't always fair, sometimes we gotta give up things we don't want to, but if it means helping your husband, to be more comfortable and less stressed, then I would do it?
You don't have to never see them again...just make certain when you do, he is along?
sorry it doesn't work like that, while others do think and feel as you do, your husband and others don't.
It's not about no friends of the opposite sex, but what it may be more about is the frequency of the friendship, or if you spend time with the friend alone without hubby...
I had male friends to, but my husband was always there with us...never did I meet them alone, or do anything with them alone...b/c my husband was jealous. My male friends that I knew since high school understood, they surely didn't want to cause my husband any reason for fear or discomfort...
again, if he didn't have an issue with it ok, but I guess you have to ask yourself, who is more important to you.....
life isn't always fair, sometimes we gotta give up things we don't want to, but if it means helping your husband, to be more comfortable and less stressed, then I would do it?
You don't have to never see them again...just make certain when you do, he is along?
Simple fix?
I think you meant to direct that to the OP. I am not the OP, but I do understand what you're saying as it would pertain to the OP.
If she is so perfect and all knowing then why did she marry him?
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
No Artsy, some people are just insecure like that. I had a best friend who married a moron who was super jealous of anybody she was friends with. He tried his best to force her to give up any friendships or relationships outside of theirs, and it backfired on his sorry *ss. She divorced him and I got to serve the disso papers!
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Hey - where'd she go??? 
