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Hey - she said he's suspicious or jealous or whatever about her female friendships too. I'm wondering how it would go if she got a pet. I mean, you really get emotionally attached to pets. This might just send the guy over the edge!
Hey - she said he's suspicious or jealous or whatever about her female friendships too. I'm wondering how it would go if she got a pet. I mean, you really get emotionally attached to pets. This might just send the guy over the edge!
Hey man, husbands got to get down with the WWM threesomes.
You crack me up and your posts do too.....I think you might be a bit of a man hater though. No worries though.
No, I am not a man hater. You said yourself that your husband is leery of your female friends too. Here's the quote:
"There is no question, of course my husband. Maybe weekly calls are too much....what sucks is that he really is a great friend. I have attempted to introduce them once when we were in town where he lives. He didnt (my husband)want any part of it. You know, now that I think about it he seems to have issues with anyone I knew before him, even female. Whats that all about?"
If this isn't controlling, I don't know what is. Do you want to live the rest of your life like this? I'm serious - something drastic has to be done and if he is not willing to change a little, you need to decide what you're going to do - cow tow to him or live your life and have friends. Trust me, the longer this goes on the more resentment you are going to feel until one day you just snap.
I think a woman who is married should have male and female friends and I do not doubt her claim that there is no cheating involved. HOWEVER, there should be some level of trust in which both the husband and wife know and trust that neither will cheat.
Her husband should be her confidant, not her male friend. If her friend wanted to send her an e-mail here and there about events going on in his life then he should but that is about it. He can meet with her, but every now and then.
You females say you would be ok for your husband to have a knockout female friend who exchanged e-mails and phone calls frequently............................please. I doubt that all of you would be ok with that.
Perhaps her husband does have problems since he does not approve of her having female friends. Maybe her husband is controlling but they need to work it out and if they cannot, then......
Here's the deal.....I have a male friend that I have been very good friends with since I was in middle school. We have been through a great deal together, college, marriage, kids, job issues etc. We have lived in seperate states for many years now but have kept in weekly contact with calls and emails. He is married with kids as am I. The problem? my husband does not approve of the friendship. I am much younger than he (my husband) which I think has something to do with it but he's the type that doesnt believe that a married woman should have a friendship with a man. I would agree to this to some extent so I can understand how he feels in a way. He wants me to cut off all contact which I havent done because I think its ridiculous. Advice?
OMG, I'm not a counselor but you through the question out here for anyone to make a comment to....I would say if I were in this situation, obviously one would have to go out the "one way" door..or something ugly may happen that someone may make a movie out of...not to be funny... Maybe for this , both go and see a counselor together, meaning you and your husband...get some professional advice "before" you make a hasty decision..
How strong of a friend is this person, and how much do you love your husband? What is more important to you...? Enough said...Good Luck...
I'm surprised that this issue wasn't settled before you got married. If your husband was okay with this friendship then, why isn't he okay with it now? That's a valid question to ask him. These kinds of issues should always be talked about before you get married, not afterward.
Maybe the OP isn't spending "quality time" or going on dates with the hubby. Otherwise it wouldn't be a problem.
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Originally Posted by SandyCo
I'm surprised that this issue wasn't settled before you got married. If your husband was okay with this friendship then, why isn't he okay with it now? That's a valid question to ask him. These kinds of issues should always be talked about before you get married, not afterward.
I think a woman who is married should have male and female friends and I do not doubt her claim that there is no cheating involved. HOWEVER, there should be some level of trust in which both the husband and wife know and trust that neither will cheat.
Her husband should be her confidant, not her male friend. If her friend wanted to send her an e-mail here and there about events going on in his life then he should but that is about it. He can meet with her, but every now and then.
You females say you would be ok for your husband to have a knockout female friend who exchanged e-mails and phone calls frequently............................please. I doubt that all of you would be ok with that.
Perhaps her husband does have problems since he does not approve of her having female friends. Maybe her husband is controlling but they need to work it out and if they cannot, then......
Personally, I am a very secure person and my husband does in fact have friendships with many beautiful, intelligent, affluent women - he's an attorney, so of course he is going to interact with these ladies on a daily basis. I am not the least bit concerned about it, as I too have my own life and my own sets of friends - both male and female. I would never even think to tell him he wasn't "allowed" to have these people as friends. And if he ever said that to me, he knows where the door is and I would hope it wouldn't hit him on the way out.
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