What if you don't accept an apology? Is that bad? (single, friend)
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I think it's more important to be able to EXTEND an apology than to accept. After all, if one hadn't been in the wrong to start with....then ...moot point. I usually say thank you and forget about the whole thing soon enough anyway. Funny how it's easy to brush aside an apology but a transgression can **** you off indefinitely. Humans are strange.
I'm a very forgiving person, but I have my limits. If someone repeats the same behavior over and again then they will have exhausted my patience and I will lose respect for them. Doesn't mean they can't earn it back, but they'll need to demonstrate that they are capable of correcting their behavior and display some sincerity.
Forgiveness isn't automatic just because someone asks for it.
I guess I'm a big pushover, because I forgive everything. I can't think of anyone or anything that was done to me that I still hold a grudge about. Everything is forgotten pretty quickly. I also don't require a forced "I'm sorry". If it comes from the heart, sure...but I don't need to hear those words to know if the person is truly sorry, it reflects in his behavior.
I suppose it's a case by case basis. For the most part, apologies SHOULD be accepted. Once anyway. If someone screws up and sincerely apologizes, then they should be given the benefit of the doubt. If they turn right around and do it again, well, at that point I could certainly see not accepting their next apology. But, as far as just ONE mistake is concerned, yes, accept it, IF it is sincere. Unless the person has gone and bludgeoned your family to death, then they deserve a second chance. Life is too short to boot people over one mistake. Flat out refusal to accept an apology really puts you in the wrong, and then one day you may find yourself asking that person for forgiveness for being so unforgiving, only to have it thrown back in your face. And the cycle goes on. Bottom line is, forgive, but don't forget. If the person you forgave does not change any, then tell them they are on their own.
I'm a very forgiving person, but I have my limits. If someone repeats the same behavior over and again then they will have exhausted my patience and I will lose respect for them. Doesn't mean they can't earn it back, but they'll need to demonstrate that they are capable of correcting their behavior and display some sincerity.
Forgiveness isn't automatic just because someone asks for it.
Excellent points.
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