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Dude, you are clueless.
You're not being mischievous. You're a stalker and you could potentially get fired/arrested. Come on, man
Gee, now where did I read this before?
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
You're a bit wacko.
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Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka
How else would you describe a man who's placing a flower on the desk of not one, but more than one woman, some of whom are not single, but married, that too without their knowledge, slowly sneaking early into the office to do the job or late at night, and not for camaraderie but to see their reaction.
Stalking you say....interesting
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Originally Posted by Thursday007
I would describe that person as creepy. And these women will not be talking about how cute it is or fighting about it - they will be huddled together discussing your weirdness. As a woman, who worked in an office - trust me on this one. It's a definite 10 on the creep-o-meter.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Why don't you get back to work and stop experimenting on the "office girls" like some kind of sociopath.
That idea has been presented to him before and he rejected it.
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Originally Posted by Mrs. Skeffington
Couldn't agree more. You're setting yourself up to be the office leper. Isn't there somewhere, besides work, where you can pursue women?
Now that's a scary thought. Hmm, he might check the classifieds for rooms to let by the week. After all, those women have GOT to be easy. Why else would they rent to men for a short term? Or maybe invite the neighbor lady who avoids him over for tea?
VAW, you go to such devious lengths when perhaps you could take a class in something and find someone who might share an interest in that topic. Do something NORMAL! Learn to cook, dance, macrame, pottery throwing.
Seriously, all this nonsense and subterfuge and ......... You really DO enjoy creeping people (women) out. But you've also got the guys thinking you're past bizarre and a candidate for the psycho ward.
I'm thinking of causing a stir at work by leaving a single flower and a nice note on a few women's desks but not sign my name, just to:
a) see their reaction,
b) see the reaction of other colleagues (if they go into a frenzy asking why they didn't receive one, etc.)
c) set the stage for asking them to lunch
Now the thing is, the majority of the women in my office are attached. I've heard about one having a boyfriend, saw the other one's bf and the third woman has a ring, plus is extra cute and flirty, so it's impossible she's single.
I'll do it as a sort of social experiment. However the company has a policy of no giving unsolicited gifts, so it might not go over too well if one of these women complains. But I doubt they will.
Trust me. The women in your office already know you are creepy and if you go through with this, the chances of someone finding this to be too creepy and reporting you is huge. You seem to think women are all alike and very simple. Why on earth would someone who receives a flower from you all of a sudden open up their social circle to you and line you up with someone they know? These women work with you and know what you're like. A flower is not going to change their opinion of you. In fact, it will just make them more creeped out.
Dude, you are clueless. Modern offices have oval or circular cameras secretly perched in some corner, where they can pan the entire area of a regular office, which happens to be a series of cubicles and cabin sections.
Two complaints from women who find mysterious gifts on the desks. Take a guess as to what happens next. The security team will take a look at the surveillance cameras.
You're not being mischievous. You're a stalker and you could potentially get fired/arrested. Come on, man
Fired/arrested? are you serious? in most countries here in europe you don't get arrested unless you physicly try to really rape someone... and at work one would probably not get more than a verbal warning for walking around hitting on people in a bad manner...
taigagirl, another reason I want to do this is to practice being a romantic with no strings attached. If the office girls have a significant other, they'll just smile at the gesture, but think nothing more. A flower is something you cherish and appeals to a girl's visual and nasal senses. They made not shed their own panties, but you're right, it would be an opening into their social circle whereby they'd be more likely to want to fix me up with a friend. In that case, is it best not to do the anonymous approach and actually leave a note with my name or at least initials?
It's just best not to do it, period. A woman dating a man or a woman who would like to date a man she really likes would be delighted, and would probably see your gesture as thoughtful, or perhaps romantic. For her to feel that way, you should leave your initials.
A woman who isn't interested, or attached will probably find the gesture quite inappropriate, unless you generously give a flower to all the women in your office. If you do this without leaving your initials; I can guarantee that some women will be creeped out. Giving flowers by subterfuge is seen by many women and men as stalking like behaviour.
If there are some younger ladies in your office, see if you can get included in an outing. My son is 24, and he does hang out with some of the young ladies from work and their mutual friends, (going to a lounge after work, playing pool, movies, bowling, whatever). You'll get opportunities to meet lots of different women.
Several people on this thread have explained why they would not, wish to receive flowers in the manner you've described. The majority of the women have expressed an opinion that they would be "creeped out" by your antics. You've had the same opinion given to you by a man. These folks are not trying to be jerks, they are giving you their honest opinion. Think about it.
I'm thinking of causing a stir at work by leaving a single flower and a nice note on a few women's desks but not sign my name, just to:
a) see their reaction,
b) see the reaction of other colleagues (if they go into a frenzy asking why they didn't receive one, etc.)
c) set the stage for asking them to lunch
Now the thing is, the majority of the women in my office are attached. I've heard about one having a boyfriend, saw the other one's bf and the third woman has a ring, plus is extra cute and flirty, so it's impossible she's single.
I'll do it as a sort of social experiment. However the company has a policy of no giving unsolicited gifts, so it might not go over too well if one of these women complains. But I doubt they will.
You might wanna reconsider carrying out your "social experiment." To leave a flower on a woman's desk and keep her guessing as to whom it came from cannot be a good thing. . .especially if most of them are attached.
Now, maybe it would be a good idea to hold off until Valentine's day. It would be nice of you to give each and every woman in your office (face to face) a single rose as a sign of friendship, admiration and appreciation. This might go over a little better, especially with those women who may not be "rose recepients" on Valentines day.
Fired/arrested? are you serious? in most countries here in europe you don't get arrested unless you physicly try to really rape someone... and at work one would probably not get more than a verbal warning for walking around hitting on people in a bad manner...
Given the "right" lawyer and judge, and a company willing to press charges, he could very well be arrested for stalking or harassment. Here in PA it's...
18 Pa.C.S. § 2709.1. Stalking. (2003)
(a) OFFENSE DEFINED.-- A person commits the crime of stalking when the person either:
(1) engages in a course of conduct or repeatedly commits acts toward another person, including following the person without proper authority, under circumstances which demonstrate either an intent to place such other person in reasonable fear of bodily injury or to cause substantial emotional distress to such other person; or
(2)engages in a course of conduct or repeatedly communicates to another person under circumstances which demonstrate or communicate either an intent to place such other person in reasonable fear of bodily injury or to cause substantial emotional distress to such other person.
18 Pa. C.S. § 2709. Harassment. (2003)
(a) OFFENSE DEFINED.-- A person commits the crime of harassment when, with intent to harass, annoy or alarm another, the person:
(1) strikes, shoves, kicks or otherwise subjects the other person to physical contact, or attempts or threatens to do the same;
(2) follows the other person in or about a public place or places;
(3) engages in a course of conduct or repeatedly commits acts which serve no legitimate purpose;
(4) communicates to or about such other person any lewd, lascivious, threatening or obscene words, language, drawings or caricatures;
(5) communicates repeatedly in an anonymous manner;
(6) communicates repeatedly at extremely inconvenient hours; or
(7) communicates repeatedly in a manner other than specified in
paragraphs (4), (5) and (6).
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now where did I read this before?
