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Everyone has weaknesses, do you think a person is perfect, just because you do not fully know him.
Obviously no one is perfect. I don't think most of us are referring to that someone as being perfect. More like as close to perfection in regard to compatibility.
Here's an analogy. Someone enters college undecided. They take a class and they realize the subject would be a good major for them. That major had been perfect for them all along, they just didn't realize it until they took the class.
It's totally possible what you're saying is true. However, if this has happened more than once to you, then it's a pattern that has more to do with you than the other person.
If you keep being attracted to people who are 'perfect' for you, but they don't feel the same way, it could be because you've got a fear of committment. People with committment issues are often attracted to people who are physically or emotionally unavailable (eg. long distance relationships, married people, emotionally unavailable or uninterested people, etc). Ask me how I know
The other key to finding the right person is to move on quickly! There is more than one right person for you. But if you are young, you are going to have more choices than if you waste time with people who aren't interested.
A really good, easy to read, practical, book on this entire subject is:
Is He Mr Right?
It's written for straight women but really is applicable to almost anyone. Personally, I would make it required reading for high school graduation.
I had just got out of high school where not many girls were into me. I remember thinking it would be so much easier to get girls in college. If I only knew.
I had similar problems throughout school. When I was in elementrary school, I thought things would change in high school. When I was in high school, I thought things would change in college. It wasn't until I was about 24 that things (slowly) started changing for me, socially speaking. But that was because I CHANGED. Basically, I was not socially smart (I'm still not, but much better than I used to be).
Don't take this as an attack, but I think you have a similar issue of not being socially smart (maybe you're ok with the guys, but not gilrs)...and all the lack of confidence that goes with that. So, when you meet someone you click with reasonably well, you zero on and think she's "the one". There can also be a tendency to obsess.
It took me a long time to give up focusing too much on one person and obsessing over them. I have a boyfriend now, but still have a hard time meeting guys, especially at big parties/bars/noisy environments where I don't know people.
Think about what I've said and see if any of it fits.
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