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Well it is rather a cold and calculating question, but I don't see it as much different from asking what you do for a living. She's trying to figure out if you're relationship material and she may have been burned in the past by someone who couldn't control his spending. Either that or she's seen too many of those commercials where the guy is working at the renaissance faire to pay off the bills racked up by his wife who lied about being in debt before they got married. I wouldn't ask it myself, but I'll be keeping my eyes open for signs of debt on my dates.
wow, women ask these types of condescending questions on dates? I'm sorry you had to deal with that! Sounds like an awful date! I don't care what a man earns as long as he's financially responsible simply because I don't want to be the one having to take care of him in that regard down the road since I can't afford to anyways. I don't need a man to be financially responsible just so he can take care of me, its just so I don't wind up having to support him someday! If living at home is what it takes to be responsible, then that earns huge respect points from me! If a man, on the other hand had no intention of someday fully supporting himself or was not working towards higher goals, I would lose interest, as I myself am working my butt off to achieve something bigger and better with my life so I expect the same.
I just looked at her like she was crazy. I couldnt believe it. My job pays ok.(I work in an entry-level position at one of the Big 4 Banks) People tell me I look well off,but I'm 24 and living at home, so I have to disagree....anyway...how would have you responded to that?
I would just come out and tell the truth, they know good and well that not everyone has well paying jobs.
They themselves may not have a well paying job and if they do then why are they(she/women) asking you anyway? Is she afraid that you might beg her for money? Or will she still ask you for money even though she has her own?
I don't care what a man earns as long as he's financially responsible
You know what, there are people(like celebrities) who has lots of money and don't spend it wisely. Like a Millionare that spends money like their a Billionare.
You going to have people who are not responsible with their money whether their rich or poor.
Last edited by Blackandgold51; 12-12-2010 at 10:06 PM..
Was that a first date? I didn't see that anywhere.
I mean, it's kind of a lame question to ask, but I can see where she's coming from.
Too many people wait far too long to get nitty gritty with finances. And frankly, it's too big a part of life and affects your stress levels too much not to have some idea before you get immensely emotionally involved.
I hear stories every day (and have coworkers who have done the same) about people who got married without ever talking about current debt or finances.
Sounds like she was an overall nut, though. Kings of Leon? Seriously?
I would've looked at her deadpan and said, "Yeah" in a casual voice, then got back to eating without saying another word.
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Originally Posted by stepka
Well it is rather a cold and calculating question, but I don't see it as much different from asking what you do for a living. She's trying to figure out if you're relationship material and she may have been burned in the past by someone who couldn't control his spending. Either that or she's seen too many of those commercials where the guy is working at the renaissance faire to pay off the bills racked up by his wife who lied about being in debt before they got married. I wouldn't ask it myself, but I'll be keeping my eyes open for signs of debt on my dates.
Perhaps women are sizing men up with the question What do you do for a living, but that is a far cry from Do you make enough to pay all your bills. If a woman really asked me this, my initial thought would be Why? Do you have my credit card number[s]?
"What you do for a living" may be a loaded question, but inquiring if you earn enough to pay your bills is down right intrusive. In my opinion, that is of no-ones business until the point in time comes when we decide to move in together.
I have to ask, though: why would you keep your eyes open for signs of debt? Avoiding potential scammers?
I just looked at her like she was crazy. I couldnt believe it. My job pays ok.(I work in an entry-level position at one of the Big 4 Banks) People tell me I look well off,but I'm 24 and living at home, so I have to disagree....anyway...how would have you responded to that?
I can (fortunately) say, "Yes." I then would have asked her what she was going to do for it.
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