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Currently I am working 2pm to 10pm Tues-Sat. I find this to be a difficult schedule to work as it relates to my social life. This does not leave me much of a window to meet women or anyone really. Most of my free time I spent waiting to go to work. Not much happens in my area on a Sunday and most people are back to work on Monday. Even if I happen to meet a girl I have worries that our schedules will keep us apart. I can't imagine a woman working a regular M-F 9-5 gig would put up with my availability. Just my thoughts, though. Perhaps not a reality.
I'd like to know how others might be dealing with something like this. I am looking for something new that would put me back on a standard schedule but beggars can't be choosers in this economy.
Currently I am working 2pm to 10pm Tues-Sat. I find this to be a difficult schedule to work as it relates to my social life. This does not leave me much of a window to meet women or anyone really. Most of my free time I spent waiting to go to work. Not much happens in my area on a Sunday and most people are back to work on Monday. Even if I happen to meet a girl I have worries that our schedules will keep us apart. I can't imagine a woman working a regular M-F 9-5 gig would put up with my availability. Just my thoughts, though. Perhaps not a reality.
I'd like to know how others might be dealing with something like this. I am looking for something new that would put me back on a standard schedule but beggars can't be choosers in this economy.
i know guys that loved this schedule. you go out after work and the bar is hopping and evryone is 1/2 lit already. you walk in fresh and find a nice girl to hang out with til last call. after that you're on your own.
You describe the hours of my career up until a few years before I retired. It is a killer socially. I lost contact with many of my 9-5 friends over the years. If you can't meet suitable people at work, I'd suggest looking into whatever your local singles network might be with your emphasis specifically toward other swing shift workers.
Or maybe organize a meet-up for 2nd shift people or advertise in Craigslist to see if there would be interest in a second shift meet-up. Nurses and other medical workers in particular have the same problems that you do, as do airport, emergency services and other 24 hour enterprise workers. There are a bunch of you out there, the question becomes how to meet them.
Currently I am working 2pm to 10pm Tues-Sat. I find this to be a difficult schedule to work as it relates to my social life. This does not leave me much of a window to meet women or anyone really. Most of my free time I spent waiting to go to work. Not much happens in my area on a Sunday and most people are back to work on Monday. Even if I happen to meet a girl I have worries that our schedules will keep us apart. I can't imagine a woman working a regular M-F 9-5 gig would put up with my availability. Just my thoughts, though. Perhaps not a reality.
I'd like to know how others might be dealing with something like this. I am looking for something new that would put me back on a standard schedule but beggars can't be choosers in this economy.
You'd be surprised how many women have oddball schedules: hospital workers of all kinds, sales people (from retail to real estate), customer service and help desk reps, law enforcement, entrepreneurs, hospitality and hotel workers of all levels, travel industry workers, and writers and editors, to name a few. In fact, a friend of mine used to be an evening editor at USAToday and she had the same days and hours as you.
So don't let your job get in the way. There are plenty of women in the same boat. If there's one thing I've learned since going freelance full-time, it's that a whole other world exists outside 9-5. Unless you're gung-ho on dating a banker, your hours shouldn't be an issue.
I worked 5 pm to 1 am for a few years. Worked mon to fri so I had the weekend open, even could play late on sun night. I was dating women long distance and only seen them on weekends so it worked out ok.
This I know is true. If a man/woman cares for you they will make allowances and be open. Your schedule is what it is so be up front and honest about your schedule with anyone you meet. If you are interested in that woman then show her that you care about her enough to set aside time for her on your off days. You can still talk to her when you get off work or see if she would be willing to hang out with you when you get off sometimes.
*What is critical is that you don't invite her to hang once you get off work initially. You have to appoach respectfully and spend time with her on your days off. Be creative and think outside the box. You'll be fine and NO you are not undatable.
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I could write chapter and verse on this topic. My schedule is different literally every work day (and I work 22 days a month). Not only am I not home on a regular basis, I am not even in the same state most days. Nevertheless, I do manage to see several people when I am home..they are just great to be so patient.
In some ways, I like being here, there and everywhere.
Thanks for the advice, thoughts and stories. Actually meeting someone is the hard part. Perhaps I'll just have to hit up a bar sometime. It might be hard to find a place in Tempe not infested with drunk college kids but I'll give it a whirl.
I worked this shift when I still went to bars. For me, it was good for that. I would get off work at 11:30, and then meet up with some friends, and head to a bar around 12:30.
However, if I didn't go to bars, there would be nothing else to do. You miss dinners and earlier get- togethers, movies, or you get somewhere and everyone is leaving.
I also worked 3rd shift for about 3 years. That was much worse, at least for me, because I liked to drink.
Most activities revolve around the *normal* schedule of day work.
I think the idea mentioned about starting a meetup group for shift workers is good. Then you could do other things, besides drink!
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