Wheres my independent women at?

[2mares]

Originally Posted by Lital_The_Best

The thing is with my mother is that she doesn't make good money or have a good income. She's unemployed and right now just stays home and takes care of my two younger brothers (below 10 years of age) so she's been a house mom.

So she wants a man who can pamper her because she's tired of having broke boyfriends who complain about money and have nothing going for them. I could understand her wanting a man who's successful but she expects too much too soon sometimes.

You are right that she is contradictory. You can not depend on another fianancially or otherwise and claim to be independent.

Perhaps your mom is just tired. It can be very draining to raise kids alone and carry all the responsibility. I can see where she would like to have someone that could carry that for her for awhile eventhough she can do it alone if need be.

There are brief moments when i think it would be nice to have someone take care of me, but I could never give up my independence.

[Lital_The_Best]

Originally Posted by onihc

or she will probably say he’s trying to control her as it is an expression commonly used by women when they don’t get things their way.

bingo.

[Glitterific]

I would consider myself independent, and I seriously doubt I would be in a long term relationship with a man who's salary wasn't in the same area as my own. I have a responsibility to myself and my child to provide a certain lifestyle. If someone wants to hop on board, he'd better be able to take care of himself and his responsibilities without my help. I don't need him coming into my life and paying all my bills (unless he wants to of course ) but I don't want to be singled out by those loser types who see me as a meal ticket. I know there are the vermin type who seek out single moms especially since they know there will be food in the fridge, car in the driveway for transportation, etc.

Basically if a man is coming into my life, he needs to add to my life, not take away from it.

[Lital_The_Best]

Originally Posted by Glitterific

I would consider myself independent, and I seriously doubt I would be in a long term relationship with a man who's salary wasn't in the same area as my own. I have a responsibility to myself and my child to provide a certain lifestyle. If someone wants to hop on board, he'd better be able to take care of himself and his responsibilities without my help. I don't need him coming into my life and paying all my bills (unless he wants to of course ) but I don't want to be singled out by those loser types who see me as a meal ticket. I know there are the vermin type who seek out single moms especially since they know there will be food in the fridge, car in the driveway for transportation, etc.

Basically if a man is coming into my life, he needs to add to my life, not take away from it.

You see, that I can totally understand and agree with. In the end, if you and the guy were to split at least you know you're not going to be dependent on him and you'll be able to take care of you and your child after he's gone.