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Keep in mind, frustrated single men, that once married, all too often you'll learn that being single was a blessing. Be careful what you wish for - you may get it.
Even though I agree, I've seen this, and usually the guy still preferred to have experienced the good parts in the beginning of the relationship / marriage than to remain single their entire lives. At least they do have the option to return to being single after they leave the marriage.
but i could not imagine myself hanging out with guys who are great with the ladies. my frustration tolerance for that type of thing, never good, has gotten worse as the years roll on. i have a better chance at making change with exercise and diet but not the hanging- out- with- guys- who- are- better than me part. all such guys would do is exploit my weaknesses. it's happened too many times before and ain't happening again. sorry to sound like a character disorder but that's how i feel
Thanks. You're the first person to give concrete advice.
Well, I think I'm unattractive because I'm short and Asian. There's nothing I can do to change that. White women rarely date Asians and all the Asian girls go after White guys.
Girls these days are too tall. I'm 5"10 but I'm shorter than all the girls at my gym.
Also, my passion is extremely boring. I'm good at business and making money. But it seems that girls my age don't care about stability. They just want a hot **** buddy. It doesn't make sense. I wish it were the '50s when girls actually cared about a man's earning potential... since that's all I'm good at.
I just feel so defeated these days. When I was in high school... I was confident because I had the high marks. It sucks knowing that being smart doesn't make one attractive. Girls say they love smart guys... that's not true at all.
Honestly, all of my Chinese and Korean girlfriends are married to or dating white guys. If you want to date white women, maybe you can start a thread asking what white women are looking for in an Asian man.
Other than that I used to have two single and tall girlfriends who were considered extremely good-looking by guys. But they would only date guys who are at least 6 feet tall.
I don't think it means that they dislike short guys, but they wanted to feel feminine like all girls. And even though they're goddesses now (LOL) being the tall skinny girl in school was probably not a treat.
Also, I noticed that Asian guys can be kind of critical to Asian girls who they think are not attractive, but since Asian girls are beautiful to a lot of guys, the girls just move on to guys who are going to treat them like they're hot and great. So if a girl has an experience with a guy who treats her like gold...she may just discount the guys of her own ethnicity.
But for you, it sounds like you're still young.
If you want to meet a girl, just continue doing activities you like in the vicinity of women. You'll need to go to more nightclubs, join a church (yeah, I know but apparently people are hooking up like no tomorrow in church) or mosque or temple, learn how to do Salsa or folk dance or something. A dance class is a great way to meet other single people.
Also, girls may not like this, but I would LOL... Since you are in good shape, try showing off your bod LOL. Wear some more revealing man-clothes or cut the grass with your shirt off or something. IMO, a tan always helps. Young girls may be grossed out LOL, but you may make an old broad (like moi)'s day.
I thought so. I moved on to other pastures and left that dead zone for a while. I'm see they are still arguing with that same troll, and wish they would just expose her already so we'll finally know who he/she/it is.
Thanks, I appreciate you taking the time to answer.
I thought so. I moved on to other pastures and left that dead zone for a while. I'm see they are still arguing with that same troll, and wish they would just expose her already so we'll finally know who he/she/it is.
Thanks, I appreciate you taking the time to answer.
No problem man. Storms knocked power out here for over a week and I had to get back in regular mode after a while. Those two trolls who add nothing two the forum, yet Tim still allows them to hang around and continue their useless banter. Waste of my time as well.
Hey, I may be a girl, but I can tell you this. A few months ago, you would not believe how frustrated I was at not having a boyfriend when it seemed like everyone around me was hooking up. But then one day, I went to the market with my grandma and she found a book for me titled, "Sassy, Single, and Satisfied" by Michelle McKinney Hammond. I didn't think it would be good, but
as I read it, I couldn't put it down! It taught me to not get consumed with the desire to focus on a mate because the reality is, a mate won't satisfy you. A
person can have a mate and still feel empty. The true completor of a person is
God. His love is more satisfying than any love in the world. It also taught me
that if there are skills you want to develop, places you want to go, etc. Then
the time that you are single is when to do so. So don't let those condescending
comments from family, friends, coworkers, etc. get you down. I hope this helps.
Btw I'm almost 20 and I don't have a boyfriend! And I'm happy!
helped. I didn't get my first boyfriend till I was 18 nearly 19!!
Thanks. You're the first person to give concrete advice.
Well, I think I'm unattractive because I'm short and Asian. There's nothing I can do to change that. White women rarely date Asians and all the Asian girls go after White guys.
Girls these days are too tall. I'm 5"10 but I'm shorter than all the girls at my gym.
Also, my passion is extremely boring. I'm good at business and making money. But it seems that girls my age don't care about stability. They just want a hot **** buddy. It doesn't make sense. I wish it were the '50s when girls actually cared about a man's earning potential... since that's all I'm good at.
I just feel so defeated these days. When I was in high school... I was confident because I had the high marks. It sucks knowing that being smart doesn't make one attractive. Girls say they love smart guys... that's not true at all.
5'10 is short in your gym? Seriously where do you hang out? At your nearest womens basketball gyms or something :P I'm around your height and I never had problems with tall ladies. Most of which aren't as tall as you may imgaine with shoes off and would surprise you when some who think are 6ft are really closer to 5'10 too!!!
I'm curious after reading some of your posts if you are actually frustrated with being single or in not having good dating prospects. I wonder if your disposition would change much if you had many dates or your options more favourable but not necessarily leading to a steady relationship. I find most younger guys I talk to rather have alot of dating "friends" than one solid bond with a girl at your age.
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I am a 32 year-old single man and I really hate the loneliness. The loneliness and the sexual frustration and the guilt associated with porn/masturbation. The loneliness by itself almost killed me. It's a spiritual thing and it's also sexual thing, but I guess it's the cross I bear for Jesus.
You should embrace being single. AT no other time in your life will you be able to experience such solitude, personal growth, and carefree living. I love my wife and my life now dearly, but being single was great. Being able to come and go as i pleased. Mountain bike all day, fishing, reading books overlooking the LI Sound. Those of you who are single enjoy every second of it instead of trying to run from it. You greatest opportunity for personal growth and self reflection occurs when one is single.
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The loneliness and the sexual frustration and the guilt associated with porn/masturbation. The loneliness by itself almost killed me. It's a spiritual thing and it's also sexual thing, but I guess it's the cross I bear for Jesus. 
