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Exactly coffeechick, its emotionally draining because i care about him so much and don't want to do anything that could jepardize whatever it is we have. But that's just it i can't define what we have, but anything i do he is always getting upset with me. He may text me twice a day saying good morning or how are you and that be it for the day. I don't get upset i am just happy i heard from him and go about my day. But if i don't answer my phone or text back its wwIII...its like walking on eggshells for somebody who isn't even interested in being with me.
A guy who really cares about a woman won't do that to her. It really sounds to me like he's being a manipulative jerk, and if it were me, I'd probably just tell him to take a hike.
But that's me, obviously. Whatever you do, be careful, and look out for your OWN best interests, because clearly he isn't going to take them into account.
I agree that your further posts indicate that he is sending mixed messages...that he wants the best of both worlds. He wants all of the benefits of a relationship with none of the drawbacks. That isn't what I intended out of my first post.
How do you treat someone that you are very interested in, but they want to take things slow with you?
A little background information is that I've dated this person in the past and we went our seperate ways because of college, now it has been 10 years and we have found each other and although my feelings have not changed for him, he has been through so much he doesn't trust women and so he wants to take things slow.
So Should I suppress my feelings and be nonchalant with him, show him and tell him how much I care about him and try to gain his trust and hope that over time he will want more or just not be friends with him at all because I obviously want more?
I do understand that taking time with someone is not always a bad thing and I am trying to be understanding, but i don't want to be waiting in the wings while he dates around looking for the next best thing.
I am not sure. That could be a good sign or it could be a bad one. Your only choice is to let it happen. If it is meant to be then it will be. If not then not. you can't force anybody. I'd do some looking though if I were you.
"You let the wrong head do the thinking?" What's a wrong head? Penis? What's wrong with it 'doing the thinking'?
Why do folks have to be so intellectual and cerebral about the most primal of urges and needs for a relantionship?
F'k it. Just give it a go whatever you feel like, it's gonna be messy but you'll know more about yourself and humanity than from reading all the books and dating manuals in the world.
Well, I think that he would have developed this attitude due to bitter experiences in past.. but with ur love and care you can definitely win over him
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