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She's no victim. It's very cruel to marry someone you don't love at all. Just imagine living years with someone who deep down hates your guts. It's not fun. You married for security, and you got it. Don't complain about the result of it.
im in almost the same situation...i hate my life but love my children. I hunger to return love and effection to someone else rather then my husband..im not inlove or attracted to him, hes very controlling and i have to force my self to have sex with him just so he'll leave me alone. I've been married 22 years to him and not one day with him has brought me any joy. I've stood with him because of my 3 children and because the bible says my situation has no grounds for divorce. im miserable and depressed. I have two older daughters one is married and the other one is getting married soon, i have a 10 year old daughter as well...she loves her dad very much. My husband is over weight actually hes obese and very lazy and barely provides for us, so we are continuously having financial problems and always getting behind on bills and eviction notices, so everything is on me. He dont ever want to talk about fixing our life or our relationship he just wants to watch tv, sleep and let othet people give him money to pay the bills all the time. we seperated one time about 4 years ago and i told him that i was tired of this life style, he cried so hard said he was sorry so i let him come back..not long after that things got even worse..he gained more weight, had a worse attitude and had even more financial problems. i just recently told him to leave again and hes doing the same thing...hes torn down a ministry that i had, destroyed my goals. dreams, and made me feel like crap. My advice to you is show him your serious leave him talk to you kids tell them they could see him anytime they want and just sepetate...get some thick skin and remember that God does love you and wants the very best for you...The Lord does not want to see you miserable,. it hurts God to see you hurt and He counts all those tears that your husband made you shed...trust God...sepetate for a while and let God do the rest...and ps find another church...Pentecostal or non-denonminational Christian church. God bless you i hope and pray we both find joy in our lives so that we can be a joy to others.
Oh man can I relate. Same boat here for 24 long years. Why o why was I in such a hurry to marry?? Truth is I know why. I wanted more kids, a sibling for my 3 yr old. But here I still am.
We need to band together to get thru this, exchange emails or something b/c it's a horrible lonely feeling.
im in almost the same situation...i hate my life but love my children. I hunger to return love and effection to someone else rather then my husband..im not inlove or attracted to him, hes very controlling and i have to force my self to have sex with him just so he'll leave me alone. I've been married 22 years to him and not one day with him has brought me any joy. I've stood with him because of my 3 children and because the bible says my situation has no grounds for divorce. im miserable and depressed. I have two older daughters one is married and the other one is getting married soon, i have a 10 year old daughter as well...she loves her dad very much. My husband is over weight actually hes obese and very lazy and barely provides for us, so we are continuously having financial problems and always getting behind on bills and eviction notices, so everything is on me. He dont ever want to talk about fixing our life or our relationship he just wants to watch tv, sleep and let othet people give him money to pay the bills all the time. we seperated one time about 4 years ago and i told him that i was tired of this life style, he cried so hard said he was sorry so i let him come back..not long after that things got even worse..he gained more weight, had a worse attitude and had even more financial problems. i just recently told him to leave again and hes doing the same thing...hes torn down a ministry that i had, destroyed my goals. dreams, and made me feel like crap. My advice to you is show him your serious leave him talk to you kids tell them they could see him anytime they want and just sepetate...get some thick skin and remember that God does love you and wants the very best for you...The Lord does not want to see you miserable,. it hurts God to see you hurt and He counts all those tears that your husband made you shed...trust God...sepetate for a while and let God do the rest...and ps find another church...Pentecostal or non-denonminational Christian church. God bless you i hope and pray we both find joy in our lives so that we can be a joy to others.
I hear you. The new testament says that if we remarry, we are adulterers ugh.
She's no victim. It's very cruel to marry someone you don't love at all. Just imagine living years with someone who deep down hates your guts. It's not fun. You married for security, and you got it. Don't complain about the result of it.
My husband knows how I feel and he says that it's my problem because he loves me even though it's not returned.
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