How do you cope with envy?

[carra]

I understand what you mean, big bad john. I don't know if that would be possible in my case though because there is an underlying cause for the envy, and that cause is in the second part of the post you quoted.

I've been a long time trying to get some answers, particularly WHY the h*** I've never been able to attract a single woman. The problem is: if I had some specific problem, say being fat, I would blame the situation on my fatness. But when nothing about me seems especially wrong, my mind only finds one option: to blame MYSELF. And that causes even more problems when other people, who don't seem to have much better qualities than me, get such a huge success in comparison. That is my big problem: I cannot find anything that accounts for such big differences, and thus it doesn't seem to me that this situation is justified.

That is where i start feeling envy. So, unless I find some answers or I can finally attract some woman, it is unlikely that my envy will go away. I wish it did... it's just not that simple.