Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
The other person is never responsible for an infidelity. Sorry, but no. If you are going to cheat man up to your choices. It is only the adulterous one fault.
To an extent, I agree with you. I, for one, would just tell the woman I was with that things weren't going well, whether I wanted to work through it or not. I'd never feel comfortable cheating, ever. I think it's generally something spineless. But again, I can think of circumstances where it may not be justified, but it may be forgiven.
May none of us will ever have to go through this, but...
If s/he admitted it was wrong and tell you they still are very much in love with you and want to save the relationship, would you take them back?
Would you stay together for children only?
Would you ever be able to trust/love them again?
Would you ever truly forgive them?
The problem is that someone who is in love with you won't cheat on you. So, this just makes them a liar and a cheater.
I would stay together for the chidlren's sake but I would never trust him again. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
I would file for divorce once the kids were out of the house.
Forgive, yes. Forget, no. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Leopards just don't change their spots. Only cheaters cheat. What they regret is getting caught.
I would forgive a one-time occurence only. Everyone makes mistakes, and as long as he showed remorse and was sincerely sorry for what he did, I would give him another chance. It would take a lot of effort on his part to regain my trust though, so I could see some issues arising from it. I guess I would have to be put in that situation first (God forbid) before knowing what to do.
And also when something didn't work out with new love, it's nice to be able to go back to the old trustworthy spouse, I suppose
That too. I'm sure someone who has stood by your side through thick and thin looks pretty attractive when a new relationship didn't work out. It's too bad they can't see that before the fact.
If s/he admitted it was wrong and tell you they still are very much in love with you and want to save the relationship, would you take them back?
Possibly, but it's never happened to me before so I can't say for sure. It would depend on the circumstances and how much I wanted to be with the person.
I would forgive a one-time occurence only. Everyone makes mistakes, and as long as he showed remorse and was sincerely sorry for what he did, I would give him another chance. It would take a lot of effort on his part to regain my trust though, so I could see some issues arising from it. I guess I would have to be put in that situation first (God forbid) before knowing what to do.
Adultery is not just a mistake. You don't accidentally commit adultery. You have to make a conscious choice to cheat. He would show remorse because he does not want to lose you. If he didn't want to do it, why did he? There is no excuse; leave before you cheat.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
And also when something didn't work out with new love, it's nice to be able to go back to the old trustworthy spouse, I suppose 
