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This was definitely ME for some years, until I broke out of my shyness! Most men and women don't want a shy person for a relationship.......just too hard to have fun with during social events or whenever. As for me, I combined humor with some sarcasim and stopped being so darn quiet and reserved. And, on top of that, I absolutely HATED being single and my wife felt the same when I met her......I was truely LUCKY!!
I have never been a shy person, at social events, I am one of the most talkative persons, and I have a healthy dose of humor too, so it's not like I am a shy, reserved person, however, I don't try to play fancy games and brag about myself or what I have done in order to attract women, when I said I am unassuming, what I meant was that I don't bend over backwards to try to charm a woman, I have observed that a lot of people do the same, some of my friends have even told me that it's the only way to impress a woman, however, I would never try to act what I am not to impress anyone, what I am should be pretty likeable for the most part, I am fit, humorous, very social, always tend to give advise to people and yes, I do dress well, my only beef being that most women tend to overlook that and for some reason, like the braggart in the room, and unlike some people in this thread who say they love men yet think they can judge them without knowing even an iota about them, I don't judge people in real life when I have no clue about what they are in person.
Firstly, you should read completely before you assume things, secondly, I agree with you, I am my own worst enemy at times, but there are times where my assumptions about a lot of women are on the money too, I am not saying all the time, however, there have been instances where I was right about the vibe I had been getting from some of the women. That said, having a positive outlook towards life does help, woman or no woman. And quite frankly, I try to be online what I can't be in real life, you could call it my alter ego, so no, I am not negative towards anyone in real life, I am mostly very polite and unassuming, I don't try to play any stupid games to impress women, I just try to be myself, I don't think too many women like men who just carry themselves unassumingly, atleast that's what I have seen for the most part.
It's not only you but all of us from time to time are our own worse enemy. I'm guilty of that and need to remind myself not to think a certain way or do something that I know I shouldn't.
I'm glad to hear that you are not having an attitude against women or in fact against anyone in life. I guess the net is somewhere where we can all blow off some steam now and then and go back to being ourselves in real life.
Now there are some bad people in both women and men, no doubt about that. But for the most part, I believe that most people are good and not out to take advantage of others.
If some of these people are finding more people that are taking advantage of others then they have to check themselves to see why they are attracted or attracting people like that.
I just have to say that I do love men but right now it's me time. I just brought a new home and am an entrepreneur so I'm very busy right now and wouldn't have the time and effort to make a relationship work. But once everything calms down, I might think of having another relationship. No matter what, I do love my life!
i don't believe in setting a perfect time for relationships to happen/occur/get hit by a truck in someone's life....
it will happen when it does. i like to focus on keeping myself happy and i am so over trying to find a man, catch a man, keep a man. i want happiness, peace, and to do good things for the world and be good to myself. period
i googled "why you need a man" the other day because past the romantic nature/support factor - i can't seem to find any reasons why it's as "essential" as others claim it to be.
I think there are some people who are born to be married... or maybe groomed to be married... I dunno. Either way, I'm one of those people, so no, I do not enjoy singleness.
Im 30 and never been in a relationship because women arent attracted to me..
Part of me likes it because i like my space and freedom and dont know if i can handle being around the same person all the time but part of me does get lonely once in awhile and would like to feel wanted by someone whos female..
It's been my experience that anyone who tells you there's something wrong with being single has no idea who you are and what you want in life, period. They forget that we as individuals make can make choices for ourselves, they're too concerned with how others see them and they're not true friends if they make you feel guilty for being single.
Some people have very good reasons for staying single, doesn't stop them from dating and "fooling around" but marriage is out of the question, just ask George Clooney.
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