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I'm 28 and have been pretty much single my whole life. I have been questioning my singleness lately because even though i am very happy and content the way i am, it kind of worries me that i know absolutely noone in my life that embraces the benefits of being single as I do. My family and friends think there is something wrong with me, lol, but I can never get them to understand that I just truly believe this is what i am supposed to be doing with my life. I guess I just needed to vent because when I visted home the other day my family told me i was boring when i told them I don't drink or go out to bars with my Friends much, lol. Then they asked if I had a gf and when i said no they responded with, "WHAT! Ur going to be 30 soon!" Does anyone else out there enjoy the single life? Or have any of you regretted remaining single durring ur youth/life?
You sound like you've mastered point #1, but you need to look at points #14 and #15.
I am a very classy cat lady Seriously I love cats... I only have one though but she is very spoiled.
Cats are very independent. I was thinking about getting a doggie, but honestly with my MBA program, and my career, the church etc I do not have time and dogs are emotionally more dependent.
I am very content with my life. I was married for 7 years, and it is too much of a compromise. Right now, my time is mine and mine only. I enjoy a gentleman's company once in a while but I do not see living (sharing my space) with a man right now.
OH YES. Dogs can be like a child to take care of. They get depressed, bored and need constant attention if you aren't around all the time. Unlike like cats, they are physically dependent in that they need someone to walk them at least 3-4 times a day, I know you already know this but just saying, hehe. Cats like you said, are very independent and just do their own thing. Good for you! Continue to be happy. Its good to enjoy a mans company here and there but its better to have your own space and do things on your own terms.
OH YES. Dogs can be like a child to take care of. They get depressed, bored and need constant attention if you aren't around all the time. Unlike like cats, they are physically dependent in that they need someone to walk them at least 3-4 times a day, I know you already know this but just saying, hehe. Cats like you said, are very independent and just do their own thing
It's all their psychology, dogs have evolved from wolves, which hunt in packs, there's no such thing as a lone wolf, a lone wolf is nothing but a pariah from the group, whereas all the big cats from which cats have come are lone hunters, and despise hunting in packs.
I am pretty sure that if I get married I WON’T be enjoying all the things I am as a single now. Can’t think of one thing I am missing out on for not being married really. Maybe I may settle down after I feel I have done what I wanted in life. So far, I’ll continue enjoying taking vacations often, travelling around the world, going out whenever I want, supporting my parents, etc.
There are at least 4 single ladies (mid 50's thru early 70's) that live in our complex and ALL seem to very content being single. Actually, two of them (that we know of) have been married before and neither of them even think about marrying again or even men in general anymore. Our neighbor, mid 50's, is one of the four and she has a pretty much "hard" personality and doesn't like socializing/talking with neighbors. Only time she will talk to us is when we talk to her first. She appears to be a pretty "tough cookie"! She has told us straight out that she doesn't go to clubs and a relationship or marriage is way out of her mind. She was married once. She enjoys her cute little "ankle biter" dog, having a smoke on her patio and basically having a boring life......fairly boring compared to ours (wife/I) and we are in our early 60's.
As for us, we 100% LOVE being married and doing A LOT of things together. A girl where my wife works ask her "so, what do you do since you don't have kids?" (she has small kids). My wife said "during the week, we watch Wheel, Jeopardy, AI and WPT and on the weekends we can take a nap in the afternoon if we please." We also boat, shoot, shop on the weekends besides the possible nap.
Marriages and relationships with women are overhyped in the modern society, with most women acting like the prized catch instead of a compatible partner, no wonder a lot of young men stay single these days, so no, it's nothing wrong about the way you are, and if you are happy being single, you should continue to be so, don't listen to your family, because although they might advise you for your best, they still come from a generation where women weren't that mean as they are right now, so it's perfectly fine to be single and happy the way you are, also, don't worry about the age, men age better than women anyway, so even if you want to go after a woman in the future, you would be the one calling the shots, and show them the attitude that they display when they were a bit younger, not them.
I didn't read much because I thought - there you go again, bashing the women. I don't think you realize your negativity towards women. I bet this attitude extends to your personal life and women can pick up your negative vibe and they stay away. You are your worst enemy.
I didn't read much because I thought - there you go again, bashing the women. I don't think you realize your negativity towards women. I bet this attitude extends to your personal life and women can pick up your negative vibe and they stay away. You are your worst enemy.
Firstly, you should read completely before you assume things, secondly, I agree with you, I am my own worst enemy at times, but there are times where my assumptions about a lot of women are on the money too, I am not saying all the time, however, there have been instances where I was right about the vibe I had been getting from some of the women. That said, having a positive outlook towards life does help, woman or no woman. And quite frankly, I try to be online what I can't be in real life, you could call it my alter ego, so no, I am not negative towards anyone in real life, I am mostly very polite and unassuming, I don't try to play any stupid games to impress women, I just try to be myself, I don't think too many women like men who just carry themselves unassumingly, atleast that's what I have seen for the most part.
I love men. That said, I was married and I believe some personalities are not cut out for it. I am very independent. Love to travel alone (I have 5 sisters and never had not even a drawer for myself!), love to be alone, love to spend the money I earn without people telling me "More shoes? You only have a pair of feet!!!! ". MOst women I know are extremelly dependent of their partners and a lot of them put off with a lot of s**** (I have a friend whose boyfriend says " She knows I do not love her" in front of all her friends. It left me speechless and I can only imagine what it does to her self esteem)
I am complete on my own, very happy with my choice. If I want company, I call friends or my sisters... but in general I am whole on my own, and I need to be. My marriage was not that good, my divorce was awful (I initiated it) and I can not imagine going thru it again.
If one day I happen to know a man who is happy accepting me as I am, well great! But life is too short and I intend to be happy, with or without a partner.... no men bashing at all, as I said I love men.
This was definitely ME for some years, until I broke out of my shyness! Most men and women don't want a shy person for a relationship.......just too hard to have fun with during social events or whenever. As for me, I combined humor with some sarcasim and stopped being so darn quiet and reserved. And, on top of that, I absolutely HATED being single and my wife felt the same when I met her......I was truely LUCKY!!
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Firstly, you should read completely before you assume things, secondly, I agree with you, I am my own worst enemy at times, but there are times where my assumptions about a lot of women are on the money too, I am not saying all the time, however, there have been instances where I was right about the vibe I had been getting from some of the women. That said, having a positive outlook towards life does help, woman or no woman. And quite frankly, I try to be online what I can't be in real life, you could call it my alter ego, so no, I am not negative towards anyone in real life, I am mostly very polite and unassuming, I don't try to play any stupid games to impress women, I just try to be myself, I don't think too many women like men who just carry themselves unassumingly, atleast that's what I have seen for the most part.
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Seriously I love cats... I only have one though but she is very spoiled.
". MOst women I know are extremelly dependent of their partners and a lot of them put off with a lot of s**** (I have a friend whose boyfriend says " She knows I do not love her" in front of all her friends. It left me speechless and I can only imagine what it does to her self esteem)
