What to do when you have a huge crush on some one incompatible with you? (dating, long-term)
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I have a huge crush on one of my friends she has one on me too. The problem is that I feel as though relationship wise she is very incompatible with me. This is the main reason why I avoid asking her out because I know it will be a huge disaster. There are certain traits that can be tolerated friendship wise but I know it would create too many problems if we were to get into a relationship. Because of that I try not to show my feeling towards her so I am sure she doesn't know I feel I do about her, but she keeps coming on the me and for whatever reason I cannot make myself avoid her. I don't know her for that long only for a few months. Any advice?
This is a tough spot to be in. People always talk about chemistry and how important it is. You could have everything in common with someone, but if you have no chemistry then it really doesn't matter. The opposite is just as bad though. I remember meeting someone I had great chemistry with. But I realized early on that we were too different and had no long-term compatibility. On the one hand, you could try to pursue something and if it doesn't work out, then at least you know tried. That's certainly better than not trying and always wondering what might've been. In this case, there's the problem of already being friends. You could try to be more than friends, but if it doesn't work out, can you go back to just being friends? And how will you react when you see her with someone else? I guess you have to ask yourself how important is the friendship and are you willing to risk it. Also, are you looking for something long-term? If you're not, then compatibility isn't all that important.
This is a tough spot to be in. People always talk about chemistry and how important it is. You could have everything in common with someone, but if you have no chemistry then it really doesn't matter. The opposite is just as bad though. I remember meeting someone I had great chemistry with. But I realized early on that we were too different and had no long-term compatibility. On the one hand, you could try to pursue something and if it doesn't work out, then at least you know tried. That's certainly better than not trying and always wondering what might've been. In this case, there's the problem of already being friends. You could try to be more than friends, but if it doesn't work out, can you go back to just being friends? And how will you react when you see her with someone else? I guess you have to ask yourself how important is the friendship and are you willing to risk it. Also, are you looking for something long-term? If you're not, then compatibility isn't all that important.
Chemistry wise we click very well. I can tell from the first day I met her that she was interested. I don't see the point of dating someone that I know I won't last more than like 2 weeks with. She has been hinting that we should go out and stuff but I made it very clear that I only see her as a friend. Regardless she continues with her flirting ways and does things to get my attention. Im not gonna lie we don't have much in common but that isn't a problem with me, my problem is that she has this leverage problem. Shes one of those people that wants things done only her way and shes very selfish. I am even scared to have flings with her because she mentioned to me that she wants to have a lot of kids and at a young age so I have a feeling that shes somehow gonna get preggors.
I am even scared to have flings with her because she mentioned to me that she wants to have a lot of kids and at a young age so I have a feeling that shes somehow gonna get preggors.
I am even scared to have flings with her because she mentioned to me that she wants to have a lot of kids and at a young age so I have a feeling that shes somehow gonna get preggors.
this situation is kind of sad. just b/c she said she wants to have kids at an early age does NOT mean she's gonna get preggors.
this girl really likes you and if you don't like her and will not pursue it, just freaking say something already. make it direct and clear. b/c you'll more than likely hurt her more by not preventing her advances and not verbalizing your intent to NEVER enter a relationship with her
she seem nice. and you should be flattered. now have a discussion with her and at least give her that closure to go pursue other guys who will actually be interested back.
The attraction is there obviously so why not have some NSA sex.
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