Men, is this a deal breaker? (kids) (Asian, attracted, older)
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the other site I meet a guy is OkCupid. it is free. Lots of cute guys there, I did write in both sites I dont want kids.
I'm wondering why you are being matched up with men who want kids when you stated that you don't.
Then again, years ago I joined eHarmony and got NO matches. When I declined to extend the subscription, they wanted to know why. I said you didn't send me any matches. They responded that the reason was because only 3% of men would be interested in me, mainly because I am too tall. Then they again asked if I wanted to re-up my subscription. LOL. Obviously, I don't think highly of that particular service.
But I still think it's weird that they aren't taking something like that into consideration when matching you up. Good luck to you--I hope you find someone who is on the same wavelength. I know a few married couples who have no children by choice, and they managed to find each other, so they are out there.
I'm wondering why you are being matched up with men who want kids when you stated that you don't.
Then again, years ago I joined eHarmony and got NO matches. When I declined to extend the subscription, they wanted to know why. I said you didn't send me any matches. They responded that the reason was because only 3% of men would be interested in me, mainly because I am too tall. Then they again asked if I wanted to re-up my subscription. LOL. Obviously, I don't think highly of that particular service.
But I still think it's weird that they aren't taking something like that into consideration when matching you up. Good luck to you--I hope you find someone who is on the same wavelength. I know a few married couples who have no children by choice, and they managed to find each other, so they are out there.
I thought that a lot of guys like the taller women.
I have been finally just talking with some guys on e-harmony and already twice they stop answering my emails when I said I do not want kids....
Really? Is this a deal breaker?
If u don't want kids then don't worry about being bothered with men who do. I am sure for some men it is a deal breaker, but it should be a deal breaker for u too if a guy wants kids and u have the strength of your convictions. Men r sorta like buses if u miss one another one will come along. And if u look good enough or u got certain talents u don't have anything to worry about. The kid issue won't be a deal breaker for most.
That said, I wouldn't necessarily say that a woman not wanting them is a deal breaker. It may not be my ideal, but that's okay: I have plenty of ideals for myself that I don't always live up to Furthermore, if I were to meet a woman who made me happier than anything and really, really made me enjoy my life that much, it's possible I could make do without them (as I have for all of my 27-so-far years).
That said... if I knew from the gate that a woman just flat-out disliked children, I'd probably feel disinclined to get to know her romantically.
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Furthermore, if I were to meet a woman who made me happier than anything and really, really made me enjoy my life that much, it's possible I could make do without them (as I have for all of my 27-so-far years).
