Could you handle TWO wives? (Christian, marry, men, sex)
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In truth, I would probably like it. Like Beekeeper, I love being surrounded by people -- big families, live-in friends, etc. When our daughter was a baby, my wife's younger sister came to live with us. At the time, my wife and I were 24 and her sister was 21. It was *sort of* like having two wives.
Of course, my wife and her sister would kill me if they heard me describe it like that, but it felt that way. There were two women who cooked and cleaned, and I hung out with both of them. It was nice (for me), but my wife and her sister did fight some. I can see how jealousy issues would be horrible in this kind of domestic situation. My wife would never go for this, and she is the perfect candidate to be a "first wife." She's the bossy eldest of six girls.
In some cultures/religions (namely islam), it is acceptable for a man to take a second, third, or fourth wife. Both my grandfathers had multiple wives and when I first got with my wife, she asked me (seriously) if I was going to take another wife. Of course I was blown away that she asked that and I told her the truth: I would never. But ever since I've been like ...
so my dudes, if you were allowed, would you take another wife lol? Would you even want to? I can just imagine all the drama multiplied but hey it is the typical male fantasy
It's bad for a culture. First it's not limited to just 2 wives.
God - and/or nature put the ratio of male-females at about 50-50. So in order for one male to have a collection of wives like they do in Muslim countries, other males must go without - and then are used to die in wars.
In order to have the big collections of women requires money, only the rich men can buy up women for their harems and as they run out of women their own age, they start buying up children.
It doesn't bring about a stable society when one wealthy sheikh can buy up as many women and girls as his money can buy and many other men are alone. It's not natural - and probably one reason your country is so bad you left it. Please don't try to bring the conditions you fled to the Western world.
malamute makes some good points, and is correct. Polygamy was banned exactly for some of those reasons, and traditionally polygamy was always about multiple wives - it was never gender neutral.
However, women are now equals of men in their access to education, jobs, property, and opportunity. In modern society, I think the situation would balance out, as some women would have multiple men, just as some men would have multiple women. Of course, there are always some who won't (or don't want to) find anyone or aren't desirable. And even though polygamy isn't legal in most western countries, that does not prevent polyamorous arrangements.
malamute makes some good points, and is correct. Polygamy was banned exactly for some of those reasons, and traditionally polygamy was always about multiple wives - it was never gender neutral.
However, women are now equals of men in their access to education, jobs, property, and opportunity. In modern society, I think the situation would balance out, as some women would have multiple men, just as some men would have multiple women. Of course, there are always some who won't (or don't want to) find anyone or aren't desirable. And even though polygamy isn't legal in most western countries, that does not prevent polyamorous arrangements.
Whatever one thinks of them, polyamorous arrangements are very different. They are by mutual consent, they don't involve purchase of wives, it doesn't make them property. Unlike harems where one man owns a number of women and girls, has purchased them and must protect his property from running off -- burkas, severe beatings and whatnot.
And yes, you would have to allow women to have multiple husbands also.
I have an acquaintance (we went to HS together; dated briefly, if you can even call it dating - more like mutual flirting) who is Hebrew and has 3 wives. He is seeking a fourth now.
And in Islam, it states that you must be able to treat the two women equally, emotionally and financially so, imagine the energy you would need when both women say "honey, can we talk about X?" and then they want to go shopping.... because you know, women love to shop together! haha
Plus, women tend to get their menstrual cycles at the same time when they live together, so you'd have TWO women PMSing at the same time.
And again, polygamy was really used in war times when women couldn't support themselves and men were outnumbered by women, so it was men who took in more women to support them.
I think the grape fantasy is just that... today's woman might do that once to indulge the fantasy, but that's not real life.
in a perfect world, i would have my current wife and previous girlfriend, their both great girls awesome cooks, completely different physically, and i would love to spoil them both; i dont think either of them would agree to share me tho but hey i like to think outside the box
lol-You sound like a friend of mine. I have explained to him what I think of his wife, now exwife--Reese Witherspoon and since I am Annette Bening--that would never work. I couldn't put up with Reese--she's a good actress and all that--but please, blondes just can't be compared to redheads. The most special of all women--pure Celtic fire which no blonde could ever learn.
Actually more like Tina Turner--he seemed a bit frightened about that and hasn't called me again. lol--He is fully capable of picking up the phone anytime he wants too--I might or might not be around--lol--learned that from him. I asked him how he liked the results of our relationship---and got a pic of Hillary in an email. shrug--I told him I am happy to be as I am, will always love/want him but 'H' has no fury, etc.
'What Has Love Got to Do With It'--yes, indeed. Tina certainly was inspired by Ike. Listening to 'Private Dancer' now.
I have to have one man---preferably independently wealthy--that can be on call, somehow take care of whatever crisis may have occurred in my life. Certainly not too much to ask --in my not so humble opinion.
1 wife was more than enough. I couldn't afford that. No way would I want two wives.
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