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Old 04-07-2011, 05:55 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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He's offering a few texts, some sex, and a few dinners out. If that's what you want too, then great! You're a good match!

But if you want more than "some sex" or more than a few texts or more than a few dinners out? He's not offering it... He's also not offering love, or a relationship. And that's fine - totally his choice. But if you want love and attention and a relationship, he's probably not the guy for you.

There's no blame here - he never mislead you - he just doesn't want what you want.
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Old 04-07-2011, 05:59 PM
 
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SandyCo - I really dont know why we do this to ourselves lol - I am so much happier when I am single, I go out more, see more of my friends, go away more and work more, hence have more money ( at least I wont lose money having to take weekends off to see him anymore ! )
I know there is nothing in this for me, I just needed people to bluntly point this out to me so I did something about it....boy has everyone helped tonight
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Old 04-07-2011, 06:00 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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He's too old in his own mind and set in his ways to change anything. I think you are wasting your time.

Of course, if you really have feelings for him you could attempt to "educate" him about how you want to be treated.

After all, we do teach people how to treat us by what we will and won't put up with.

You have put up with too much already and need to set some ground rules if you want to see this relationship go anywhere.

Of course, that's a lot of work, and only you can answer if you want to spend the time and energy. Good luck.
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Old 04-07-2011, 06:01 PM
 
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He's also not offering love, or a relationship. And that's fine - totally his choice. But if you want love and attention and a relationship, he's probably not the guy for you.

There's no blame here - he never mislead you - he just doesn't want what you want.
Well said you are spot on
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Old 04-07-2011, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Rockwall
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So you like the races? Cool. You don't have to put yourself out to for this guy just to go to the racetrack. You and a girlfriend should go! Most races have some type of events prior to the actual race. Go to this.
Get a hot Ivy Jane dress with some cowgirl boots or Miss Me jeans with a pretty Free People top and go have fun! And guess what? You might meet someone nice. And guess what else? You might end up with a couple of Pit Passes.
And if you do, take it VERY slow. Get to know someone before you see them naked. Really.
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Old 04-08-2011, 08:45 PM
 
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I told him today that things were not working out with us , this was my reply. Well we are both busy a lot and we don't spend time together as much as we should but let's not be too hasty let's go out for dinner next week and decide what's best to do ......I told him that I needed a partner to be my best friend , to have fun and be close. Obviously he ignored this statement , and as all this took place without him bothering to ring me he is now history. No more allowing myself to come bottom on a guys list of priorities
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