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She is 17, and just now has her first boyfriend, she's a AB student and a junior in high school. Otherwise delightful young lady, she and I get along fine and she isn't disrespectful to me, it's to her daddy, My SO.
She talks to him like a dog, "you will do this or that"...and tells him she is pissed at him, I'd had my jaws rang for that and so would my SO.
I have not said anything to her, as I don't feel it's my place, unless she was to talk to me that way, which she might, but, she will be called down for it, if she ever does.
I haven't said anything to SO either, I can tell it bothers him and that he feels belittled, and I know by far she is the only one that would ever get away with it by him....
Is there anything I can do or say? AS she and I do have a good rapport...I might add she had just came from her crazy mother's for the weekend...and she is CRAZY and the daughter even tells us that...but, I don't feel like that's a excuse to treat her daddy like Sh8t.
I need help dealing with the way it makes me feel....
She's a 17 year old girl. She's going to be rude, snappy, and have an attitude sometimes. I think that should be expected. She's treating her dad that way, but not you, which makes me think it's more a rebellious teenager "I'm angry at my father" attitude and isn't going to last. (It's just a phase.)
Doesn't mean it's OK, but if he's not willing to say anything to her about it then she's not going to change her behavior. It's definitely NOT your place to say something though. This is an issue between him and his daughter, he needs to take care of it.
That's what I'm thinking as well, Liasn23. It's NOT my place...But, he did tell me he realizes she don't mean it, but, I can tell it hurts his feelings, and I know about the teenager things, it's just I have boys, and lord have mercy, it's like a total different world. LOL
He needs to speak to her and tell her to cut it out. I'm not quite sure why parents allow their children to talk to them like that. My daughter talks to me like that sometimes and I have to tell her to stop or I'm not going to continue talking to her. If she continues, I just walk away. I won't allow anyone to disrespect me.
Of course with my big mouth, I wouldn't tell her but I would talk to my SO and let him know he should stand up to her. I'd talk to him once about it and that's it.
You could always say something like "you better not talk to me that way" or talk to your SO about why he allows it when he obviously isn't OK with it. Just some suggestions. If people aren't getting negative feedback, they don't know that something they are doing isn't OK, and they never learn. So if you want her to realize it's not OK, she has to find out in some way or another.
That's what I'm thinking as well, Liasn23. It's NOT my place...But, he did tell me he realizes she don't mean it, but, I can tell it hurts his feelings, and I know about the teenager things, it's just I have boys, and lord have mercy, it's like a total different world. LOL
Maybe he can talk to her from that angle, then. Maybe he can explain that she probably doesn't mean it but she comes across as disrespectful and he would appreciate it if she made an effort to be more respectful as the way she is acting now hurts his feelings. He could also explain that asking is better than telling, and even when you have to tell someone something, doing it politely works better.
Why do people minimize this behavior saying, "They don't mean it?" Of course they mean it or they wouldn't do it . . . stop excusing disrespectful behavior. The dad "should" tell her to cut it out, NOW.
I wouldn't put up with it for one minute from ANYONE'S Child, if it were directed at me...just sayin'...I don't think it should be an excuse either and believe me it was all I could do to bite my tongue.
You must not have problems, Round, and you're looking for some. Unless she acts this way with you, this isn't any of your business.
No, I don't have problems...not of this sort, never have out of my boys...Not looking for any either, just want to support my SO.
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Unless she acts this way with you, this isn't any of your business.
