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Old 04-19-2011, 09:59 AM
 
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What is wrong with a guy leaving his girlfriend for another girl? She might have been a bad girlfriend, or simply has a stronger connection with this other girl. Please don't generalize. Many men and women have been in the same boat and are not bad people.
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Old 04-19-2011, 07:31 PM
 
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What is wrong with a guy leaving his girlfriend for another girl? She might have been a bad girlfriend, or simply has a stronger connection with this other girl. Please don't generalize. Many men and women have been in the same boat and are not bad people.
You should leave someone if you're no longer interested in a romantic relationship with them, not because you think someone else will be better. It is wrong to keep seeing someone who you're unsatisfied with and who you can't really imagine a future with and then leave when someone else comes along, unless you have some mutual understanding that neither of you really care all that much for each other and are just in it for some short term fun. It's an illusion to think someone else is going to be better. There's always the potential that someone else will be better....there are afterall billions of people in the world. If you think that way, you'll never be satisfied and will always be looking for that next awesome person who you think will be better than the person you already have. And if you don't like the person you are with and don't want to have a future with them, then end it right then and there instead of waiting to end it till someone else comes along. Doing the latter is not fair to your SO.
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Old 04-19-2011, 10:33 PM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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Isn't the real question "why doesn't she go out with me instead"?
Lolz
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Old 04-20-2011, 12:13 AM
 
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I have this friend who's a girl that is getting ready to go out with a guy that she started seeing before he broke up with his girlfriend. I've tried everything I can to tell her that it is a bad idea because being a guy, I know exactly the type of guy this is and how he will treat her. What can I say to her to keep her from going out with him or will she ignore me no matter what I say?
First thing you gotta do is you gotta describe this guy to us, the readership, tell us what it is about him which makes him wrong for a woman.
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Old 04-20-2011, 08:27 AM
 
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First thing you gotta do is you gotta describe this guy to us, the readership, tell us what it is about him which makes him wrong for a woman.

Only thing we need to know is the fact that this guy was still in a relationship when he started dating this new girl. I don't need to hear anything more. That sentence tells us all we need to know.

He's going to date this new girl and when something different comes along he'll jump on that. Difference is this girl deserves it for being stupid enough to date a guy that has already proved he doesn't mind cheating.

I say wait until this guy dumps your friend then say " I told you so dumbA--!!!"
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Old 04-20-2011, 10:00 AM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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Only thing we need to know is the fact that this guy was still in a relationship when he started dating this new girl. I don't need to hear anything more. That sentence tells us all we need to know.

He's going to date this new girl and when something different comes along he'll jump on that. Difference is this girl deserves it for being stupid enough to date a guy that has already proved he doesn't mind cheating.

I say wait until this guy dumps your friend then say " I told you so dumbA--!!!"
That's pretty funny. Last time I checked, one of the benefits to dating is the ability to walk away at any time and for any reason.
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Old 04-20-2011, 10:18 AM
 
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That's pretty funny. Last time I checked, one of the benefits to dating is the ability to walk away at any time and for any reason.

Agreed.. But he should have done that before starting a new relationship.
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Old 04-20-2011, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Agreed.. But he should have done that before starting a new relationship.
Does it really matter? As long as you don't play the person on and lie, is it any different than breaking up first?
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Old 04-20-2011, 05:06 PM
 
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She knows what she is getting into. She just wants to get laid.
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Old 04-20-2011, 05:49 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have this friend who's a girl that is getting ready to go out with a guy that she started seeing before he broke up with his girlfriend. I've tried everything I can to tell her that it is a bad idea because being a guy, I know exactly the type of guy this is and how he will treat her. What can I say to her to keep her from going out with him or will she ignore me no matter what I say?
I`m sure she is thrilled that she help break up his relationship! Nothing you can say... sorry.
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