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He came right out and said it but in question form. It was like "You're going to get it this time?" and I was like "sure"
I feel bad for not offering to pay sooner, but it really never occurred to me to do so. Now I feel kinda awkward about future dates. Should I always offer to pay for them now?
What kind of dates are you guys doing? If he always chooses a date that costs money, or costs enough that he feels it's a burden, imo that's his fault. It's a choice he made. He can make other choices. Dates don't always have to involve money, or not much money. What, he can't afford movie or museum tickets? Does he think a free outdoor concert or art fair, followed by lunch or dinner at home is too low-brow?
here in the city i live in (or maybe the circle i move in) its NORMAL to split everything 50/50. Maybe if a guy asks you out hell pay the first dinner, but then it will be 50/50. Its only fair, we as women have the same capicity that men have to make money, so i dont see why they have to pay for everything.
In 7 years with my boyfriend, we always went dinner and split 50/50.
What kind of dates are you guys doing? If he always chooses a date that costs money, or costs enough that he feels it's a burden, imo that's his fault. It's a choice he made. He can make other choices. Dates don't always have to involve money, or not much money. What, he can't afford movie or museum tickets? Does he think a free outdoor concert or art fair, followed by lunch or dinner at home is too low-brow?
It's his fault the she doesn't feel like she's an equal partner in the relationship who should contribute financially?
I don't see how that works
It's his fault the she doesn't feel like she's an equal partner in the relationship who should contribute financially?
I don't see how that works
But it's not cool demanding like that. I would offer to pay at some point but if he flat out asks this, I would feel awkward too and the date would probably be over quickly, as if it didn't came sincerely from him but he was testing me or something.
I will gladly offer but will not liked being demanded to pay.
But it's not cool demanding like that. I would offer to pay at some point but if he flat out asks this, I would feel awkward too and the date would probably be over quickly, as if it didn't came sincerely from him but he was testing me or something.
I will gladly offer but will not liked being demanded to pay.
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Originally Posted by ixi10
I feel bad for not offering to pay sooner, but it really never occurred to me to do so.
The OP obviously wasn't going to offer.
I, recently, had a similar situation. I didn't ask her out and stick her with the bill, but I brought it up and we've been about 50/50 since.
If a man even suggest I pay, I would question his masculinity and provider skills. I will be based for this, but its a man's job since the beginning of time to take care of the woman. What a joke...I could care less about the money spent on the dates, but to ask a woman for money is pretty tacky, IMO. It would be the end of the dating relationship for me...
If a man even suggest I pay, I would question his masculinity and provider skills. I will be based for this, but its a man's job since the beginning of time to take care of the woman. What a joke...I could care less about the money spent on the dates, but to ask a woman for money is pretty tacky, IMO. It would be the end of the dating relationship for me...
Since the beginning of time it's been the female's job to produce offspring. For this reason I fully expect every female that I provide for to engage in sexual intercourse with me. If they refuse it would be the end of the dating relationship for me.
Neither you or I are jerks. We are entitled to our opinions.
I see. Then I guess they're not a match for one another. The OP should look for a man that doesn't mind paying every time (there are still men like that) and the man in the story should seek for a woman that splits the bill 50/50.
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Originally Posted by DivineComedy
I, recently, had a similar situation. I didn't ask her out and stick her with the bill, but I brought it up and we've been about 50/50 since
Fair enough. As long as she's ok with it then it's good.
Neither you or I are jerks. We are entitled to our opinions.
Of course you are, buy why do you need to make them in the most obnoxious way possible?
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